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“Why Cocky+Funny Attracts Women” – May 4, 2002

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“Why Cocky+Funny Attracts Women” – May 4, 2002

I get a lot of email from guys who don’t quite get the Cocky+Funny attitude.

It just doesn’t make sense to some guys that teasing women, busting their balls, being slightly arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could or should make them feel attraction.

I can understand this, because I was exactly the same way the first few times I heard it and saw it.

I kept thinking to myself “If I do this cocky and funny thing, I’m only going to come across as arrogant… and that can’t make women like me more.”

Well, was I ever wrong.

You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn’t logical. It doesn’t follow the rules that it “should” follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful emotion that has reasons and triggers that don’t make any sense at first glance…

I’m sure you’ve seen many attractive women with guys who mistreated them, abused them, and were exactly the opposite of what you’d expect a woman to accept.

Why?

ATTRACTION. In the beginning she felt attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no amount of being “bad”, abusive, or jerk-ish can convince a woman feeling a strong attraction to leave.

So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit about the Cocky+Funny attitude, why it works, and how to use it to attract women (without having to be an abusive jerk).

First of all, you have to remember that the formula is Cocky PLUS Funny. Always both.

If you act too cocky, you’ll come off as arrogant and insecure only.

If you’re just funny, always telling jokes, and making people laugh, you will probably come across as “too goofy.”

But if you use BOTH together, you will create magic. Cocky+Funny is like sparring… it’s sport… it’s fun… it’s challenging… it’s interesting when used with skill.

So let’s get clear about what “Cocky+Funny” is.

Here’s a cocky statement:

“Her dress makes her look fat.”

Here’s a Cocky+Funny statement:

“If she doesn’t find a dress that fits better, the fashion police are going to send in the SWAT team for her ass.”

Get it?

Start with arrogance, then add humor.

So why does it work to attract women?

Well, the short (email newsletter size) answer is:

COCKY AND FUNNY ATTRACTS WOMEN BECAUSE IT QUICKLY AND DIRECTLY SAYS ALL THE RIGHT THINGS ABOUT YOU.

Women are attracted to “alpha male»” types. We all know that. Women are attracted to a sense of humor. We all know that one too.

Women AREN’T attracted to men who give away their power, kiss up to them, smother them with attention, act like whipped puppies, and get nervous just being in the same room.

If you meet an attractive women, and IMMEDIATELY start giving her a hard time about something, busting on her, and have fun, it basically says:

“You are interesting enough to talk to, but you’re going to have to do a lot more than just look good to impress me. Your beauty doesn’t make me nervous in the slightest, I’m perfectly calm, and in fact, I’m so comfortable that I just noticed something about you that I’m going to make fun of…”

There is no faster way on earth to communicate all the right attitudes, beliefs, self-image, comfort, confidence, and power than to be Cocky+Funny.

(Except maybe to put on a perfect Brad Pitt costume.)

Once you start using this attitude, you will be totally astounded at the results.

Here’s a low-risk example:

Next time you’re at the grocery store in the checkout line paying for your groceries, say:

“So how much of this cash do you get to keep?” (as you hand her the money)

She’ll probably laugh and say: “None… I wish.”

To which you can respond with:

“Oh, I figured you were pocketing 10 or 20%… I assumed you were rich and could support me. But now I’m not interested… I want a rich girl.” (Turn up your nose)

This is a great one. It’s always fun to ask a woman if she’s rich or famous, then when she says that she’s not, tell her that it messed up her chances with you, and that you’re not interested anymore.

One of the keys to the Cocky+Funny attitude is to never “crack.” If she opens her mouth and gives you the “I can’t believe you just said that” look, you need to turn it up a notch…

Most guys will crack and say “Oh, I was just kidding.”

DON’T DO THAT! It makes you look like a wussy.

In the example above, if the checker looks at you and gives you the open mouthed “I can’t believe you said that” look, and says “Hey! I may not be rich, but I’m nice!”, you just look at her and say “Nice isn’t good enough, I need RICH AND nice.”

Your goal is not to upset a woman, but to get under her skin enough by teasing, busting on her, and acting cocky and funny that it ignites the magical challenge/ attraction mechanism.

So get out there and use it, because the magic formula of Cocky+Funny will create all kinds of good things for you. You’ll see.

If you’d like to learn more about the Cocky+Funny attitude plus all the other vital keys to attracting women, getting phone numbers and email addresses, getting dates, taking things to a physical level, and much more, then I’d recommend that you download a copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating“. It’s full of great ideas to help you go from the first meeting to the first kiss… all the way to the bedroom. Just go to:

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…now to get it. On my website you’ll also find more great ideas for attracting women. Check it out.

I’ll talk to you again soon,

Your Friend,

David D.

P.S. If you want to send in a success story, please send it to me at:

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Keep it short, and tell me a story about what’s working for you before you ask your question. And put the words “Success Story” in the subject line for me… I read those first!

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