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“Q&A: She Says: ‘I Like You As A Friend'” – June 27, 2002

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“Q&A: She Says: ‘I Like You As A Friend’” – June 27, 2002



My name is O. im 20 years old, living in Cyprus. Actually in my college i got interested to a gal.

She was also good with me and many times did somethings that means, at least for me, she is interested to me too. Recently I got her mobile number and i called her the day after it and she talked to me normally BUT after a few days when i called her again she did not answered to my call (she didnt pick the mobile up). then I sent her this SMS:

Without U life is Black not White.Without U the world has no hope,no light.Without U I cant go left or right.Without U I lose my sight.THANK U MY GLASSES!

I called her 2 or 3 times after it in 3 days but she didnot answered again.Then I sent her this SMS:


2 days after it I again called her and this time she didnot pickup the phone as well,So I decided to say her every thing and tell her the truth and at least I will know is she really likes me or not,then i sent her this message:

Hello my A.,I sent you lots of messages BUT you did not answered to me.Im worry about you,is every thing all right? I want to tell you a truth… I like you, in fact I love you. You are always in my mind,you are everywhere,I never forget you…I REALLY MISS YOU!

Then, after 2 hours she replyed me with this message:

Hey O. I got all your messages I’m all right <thanks for asking>.Sorry for not replying.Anyway I want to tell u that I just want a be your friend.Sorry if I Gave u the wrong idea, I didn’t want u to misunderstand me

With this message she told me that she doesnot want to be my girl friend so in reply to her I wrote this(I said good bye):

Thanks for answering.I hope you be successful in your life everywhere with anybody and thanks for every thing ’cause you taught me many things!

I was not expecting any reply from her but she sent this sms right after my sms:

I enjoy being your friend.I WISH U THE BEST.Have a nice holiday.Sorry if I made u feel bad:(

did not send her any sms but after 2 days she sent me this sms, which really made me quite confused:

* * * * *
* * * * * *
are like stars….
you do not ALWAYS SEE
them but you know they
are ALWAYS there!!!

I really need your advise. The girl who did not EVEN wanted to answer to my calls now sends me such messages!

Now,I beg you please tell me what does she mean by these words? and What should I do?

I really loved her but when she told me that she want just to be my friend,however,it was hard for me to believed but I accepted it and said goodbye to her with my last message.But as you can see….!!!!

I need your idea totally, What do think about her? and IF you suggest me to continue being her friend What should I do now after sending that goodbye sms? What should I reply to her last message,what should I told her? honestly, I still like her! but I think Im not sure is she playing with me? and the last question, If she want me just as friend Am I so important for her that she do not want to lose me? and Why?

I’m looking forward to hear from you. Please tell me what do you think about her from her messages.

Very Sincerely Yours,



Even though you live all the way on the other side of the world from me in Cyprus, I can still feel your pain.

I think that probably every man can identify with the following sequence:

1) Meet girl.

2) Get along well with girl.

3) Feel attracted to girl and think she is attracted to you.

4) Tell girl that you like her (after getting up the nerve).

5) Girl disappears.

6) Call girl 47 times, but still no response.

7) Finally girl turns up and says “I only like you as a friend and sorry if I hurt you”.

…Ouch. I know it’s a bummer, but you might take comfort knowing that this has happened to me and just about every guy I know MANY times.

Let me take a shot at explaining what’s going on here, and hopefully help you and the others reading this to avoid this kind of thing as much as possible in the future.

From my perspective, there are a few main issues going on here all at once…

1) Women are complex and often illogical (so are men, but in different ways).

2) Women are attracted to men for reasons that most men either don’t know, don’t understand, or won’t accept.

3) The way that women communicate isn’t always as “direct and straightforward” as most of us guys would like.

4) It’s difficult to un-do one of these situations once it has reached this point.

5) There are things you can do to avoid this kind of thing in the future.

So, let’s deal with these one at a time as they relate to your situation…

1) Women are complex and often illogical (so are men, but in different ways).

Women act on emotion and intuition more than men. They don’t do the “logical” thing as often as men.

Women walk into Starbucks and order a “fat free” cafe mocha, and then get WHIPPED CREAM on top. No kidding. I see it all the time…

Women will go through a full closet of clothing trying to choose something to wear to the supermarket, then conclude that “there’s nothing to wear in here”…

Women spend $200.00 on shoes that are going to be worn a few times…

Again, man have their bizarre behaviors, and I’m not trying to “badmouth” women… but in my experience women are usually not very LOGICAL about things… and they’re ESPECIALLY illogical when it comes to relationships.

Men are perfectly logical. They want to have sex with everything. Women aren’t. They only want to have sex with men who DON’T want to have sex with them. LOL!

My point is that you have to put your ideas about how things “should” be OUT OF YOUR MIND. Start a new way of thinking about things based on REALITY and not LOGIC.

2) Women are attracted to men for reasons that most men either don’t know, don’t understand, or won’t accept.

As I like to say, “Attraction Isn’t A Choice”.

We don’t think about who we’d like to feel attraction for, it just happens on it’s own in most cases.

But the thing to remember is that ATTRACTION has a pattern. It’s like a combination lock or a puzzle. There is a way to create it if you know the “recipe”. On the other hand, if you DON’T know the recipe, then you’re not likely to figure it out by trial and error. And the reason for this — again — is because IT’S NOT LOGICAL.

While men are attracted mostly to LOOKS, women are attracted mostly to PERSONALITY TRAITS.

In your situation, you displayed the personality trait that I refer to as WUSSY a little too early in the game.

Women generally aren’t attracted to men who get too lovey-dovey and emotional too quickly. There’s not mystery or challenge when you fall in love immediately.

And when you call 31 times a day, it only makes the problem worse. What you need to do in these situations is LEAN BACK more and give her some space. Give her room to think about you and miss you.

3) The way that women communicate isn’t always as “direct and straightforward” as most of us guys would like.

If a woman wants to tell you that she isn’t interested in you in a romantic way, she’ll often NOT tell you as her way of telling you. In other words, she might just disappear for awhile. Or she might not return calls quickly. Or she might talk about other guys with you…

Once again, you have to put the concept of pure, rational LOGIC out of your mind when it comes to the world of ATTRACTION.

Women are subtle. They read into things and try to tell you things indirectly. Women don’t generally take what you say at face value. They want to know what everything REALLY means.

If you meet a girl, and after the first date you say “I really like you, you’re beautiful and I have feelings for you” they think you said “I’m a Wuss because I fall in love too quickly”.

On the other hand, if you say “Good night, give me a call sometime” she’ll think you said “You were kind of boring, and if you want to talk to me again you’re going to have to call me”.

4) It’s difficult to un-do one of these situations once it has reached this point.

Unfortunately, once a woman has “made up her mind” about a guy, it’s usually VERY difficult to change that mind.

If you’re in a situation like this where a woman has said “I only like you as a friend”, then you’re best off going out and meeting some other women, and getting on with your life IMMEDIATLY! Don’t wait. Get on with it.

If you disappear from HER life, then turn up a month or two later… and you’re dating a few other attractive women… she might see you in a new light.

Jealousy is a VERY powerful motivator to women, and this is often what it takes to get a woman to see you in a new light once you’ve let out your INNER-WUSSY too early in the game.

Point: Don’t try to un-do it. Just get on with your life and quit obsessing over her.

5) There are things you can do to AVOID this kind of thing in the future.

The most important step you can take is to LEARN HOW ATTRACTION WORKS! You need to learn this game so you know what’s happening in future situations… and, most importantly you know what to do to make women feel attracted to you from the beginning (and, of course, how to NOT let your inner WUSS rear its ugly head too often).

As you know, some of my favorite ways to do this are by being Cocky and Funny, teasing women, busting on them in a particular way, playing hard to get, etc.

But if you want to learn how ATTRACTION works and to make it work for YOU, then YOU’RE going to have to go out and do it. No one else is going to do it for you.

…and if you want to learn all of MY very best secrets and techniques, then you MUST download a copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating“. It’s jam packed with all of the things it’s taken me literally YEARS to learn about how to make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

I did the trial-and-error thing. I tried all kinds of stuff. In fact, I’ve probably tried more different ideas for meeting women than anyone I know.

The real shift towards success came when I started making friends with guys who were very successful with women… and then watching what they did in person.

I found that these guys did things that THEY WEREN’T EVEN aware of… things that made women literally pursue THEM. I then took all of this information, and combined it with the other things I had learned… I worked like a mad scientist for a few years on this because I really wanted to get this area of my life figured out.

Well, as you can imagine, I developed some pretty amazing techniques for meeting women, getting emails and phone numbers, taking things to a “physical” level, and everything in between.

My eBook “Double Your Dating” is the best of the best of those ideas, all explained in detail. I personally use every idea, concept, and technique in that book in my own personal life. It’s not a bunch of BS techniques cut and pasted together.

If you want to really take your success with women to the next level, then it’s a “must read”. Just go to:

[ebook download link]

…now and download your copy. It’s the best possible investment you can make in your dating future.

And I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

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