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“An Unexpected ATTRACTION Secret” – September 14, 2002

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“An Unexpected ATTRACTION Secret” – September 14, 2002

In my never-ending quest to get to the root of what it is that creates the magic known as ATTRACTION, I came upon an idea that really struck a chord.

I realized that there was a common thread running through many of the concepts that I discovered while studying guys who were naturally successful at attracting women.

At first it wasn’t obvious to me, but the more I thought about it, the more the pieces came together.

Here’s the point I realized:


Let’s do a little refresher course on how ATTRACTION works…

1. ATTRACTION isn’t a choice. Attraction isn’t some obvious logical process that happens because we choose it. It’s an EMOTION that is triggered in RESPONSE to certain things.

2. If a woman feels the emotion of ATTRACTION, then almost nothing else matters. No amount of pressure from friends or family, thinking about it, reasoning, etc. will do anything about it. Once ATTRACTION is present, it can override all logical decision making processes.

3. If a woman DOESN’T feel the emotion of ATTRACTION after she’s had the chance to interact with you, then there’s really nothing you’re going to be able to do about it. You can’t convince a woman with logic to feel attraction. It just doesn’t work that way.

4. If you study ATTRACTION, and how it works, you’ll begin to see trends, processes, and predictable patterns that happen.

5. Women are attracted to men for very different reasons than men are attracted to women. Yes, they share some common reasons for attraction, but for the most part they are VERY different.

All in all, I really believe that you have to set up the “relationship” with a woman correctly from the VERY BEGINNING if you hope to have it turn into something romantic. If you don’t set it up right from the start, it’s difficult or almost impossible to change things later on.

As you’ve probably read in past newsletters, women are NOT attracted to weak guys. Women don’t like WUSSIES.

So what DO women like?

Well, to answer that question, let’s take a look at some pop psychology that we’ve all heard about.

Here are a few terms that you’ve probably heard:

1. Status Symbols
2. Approval Seeking
3. Conspicuous Consumption

These are terms that are used all the time to describe common patterns of human behavior…

Status symbols are those things that we obtain to show others that “who we are” and that “we’re somebody”.

This can be anything from cars to clothing and even the way we talk.

Approval seeking is when we try to get someone who we think has status to “approve” of what we’re doing, our motivations, or our reasoning.

Conspicuous Consumption is when we go out of our way to spend more money than necessary, buy more than we need, or otherwise display to others that “we can afford it”.

Driving a Mercedes, wearing designer clothing, and eating at trendy restaurants are examples of conspicuous consumption.

Again, you’ve probably heard these pop psychology terms a thousand times… but did you ever stop to think about what they all have in common?

I already let the cat out of the bag…


And the more I look at how ATTRACTION works, the more I realize that STATUS is one of those keys that triggers it for women.

The wonderful thing about STATUS is that IT’S ALL IN THE MIND.

Sure, there are “external” things you can do to show women that you have status, but NOTHING is more powerful than BEHAVING like you do.

So why would women feel ATTRACTION for men who have STATUS?

That’s a great question. And the answer to that question has led me on a quest through some fascinating new research that’s being done…

But let’s just say that I’ve proven to myself beyond the shadow of any doubt that STATUS plays a huge in this puzzle.

So what’s the OPPOSITE of status?

You guessed it…


And as you’ve probably heard me say a million times…


So what are some things you can do to show that you have that INTERNALLY CREATED status that causes women to feel an UNCONTROLLABLE ATTRACTION for you?

Well, one of them is to use the technique I call being “Cocky and Funny“.

This is where you tease, flirt, bust on, and generally give a woman a hard time. Of course, you can also be Cocky and Funny about things other than her…

But the point is that when you make funny, arrogant comments… while at the same time acting completely calm and natural (like you would with a friend), you project that you are TOTALLY COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN.

I have an exercise for you…

This week while you’re out and about, see if you can find some police officers who are taking a break, or walking around.

I’ve noticed that police officers have a particular way of holding themselves, walking, and driving that SCREAMS the message “I’M IN CONTROL HERE”.

Know what I mean?

And guess what… women LOVE police officers (or any man in uniform who acts like “he’s the man”).

Police officers do something that’s amazing… they use their uniform, position, and body language» to CREATE the “high status” response from those around them.

You know what’s cool? YOU CAN TOO…

Next, I’d like you to think about how you behave when you’re around an attractive woman.

Do you hold your head high, your shoulders back… and maintain a totally cool, calm demeanor?

Or do you act nervous, apologetic, and like you’re trying to impress her?

Try this…

Next time you’re talking to an attractive woman, start making jokes that hint at the idea that she’s a “lower class” person. Remember, I said jokes.

Tease her about her clothes being purchased second hand… tell her that you hope she has a good job, because you don’t want to marry a woman who hasn’t paid off her trailer home yet… when she tells you what she does for work, accuse her of lying and just trying to impress you and that you secretly know she’s homeless.

This is all very subtle, but without saying anything explicitly about yourself, you can create a situation where a woman sees you as a “high status man”… just by the way you communicate.

In summary:

-Women feel ATTRACTION for “high-status” men

-You don’t need money, looks, or anything else to project that you have high status.

-You can create this situation purely with your communication, and bypass all the B.S. that men go through to impress women.

Take a look around you… the guys who are successful with women all project that they have HIGH STATUS… whether they do or not.

And the guys who AREN’T successful with women project that they DON’T have high status… even if they do.

You’ll be hearing more about this from me in the future, as it’s such an important concept. But for now just start paying attention to what’s going on around you. You’ll be stunned at what you see.

And of course, if you want to really take your understanding of women and your success in the dating world to a whole new level, I recommend that you check out my new CD Audio series… I’ve spent a lot of time and energy learning how and why women are ATTRACTED to some men, and not to others, and in this series I go DEEP into the topic. When you’re finished listening to it you will feel, for maybe the first time in your entire life, like you finally GET what’s going on in women’s heads.

I’m excited about it, and I’m getting some amazing letters back from the guys who have listened to it. Just go to:

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…for all the details. And of course, if you haven’t read my eBook “Double Your Dating“, then you need to start there. It’s full of techniques and ideas that will have you out getting more dates within HOURS. That’s at:

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I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend

David D.

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