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“Sexual Body Language” – October 18, 2002

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“Sexual Body Language»” – October 18, 2002

I have some interesting news for you…

Attractive women know within SECONDS of seeing and/or interacting with you if you’re a sexually aware, confident man. And they make the UNCONSCIOUS decision of whether or not you’re a possible sexual partner within a maximum of a few minutes of interacting with you. These unconscious decisions are made mostly on the basis of body language» and voice tone.

And since we know that “Attraction Isn’t A Choice”, we can generalize the following:

1. If you don’t know what types of body language» communicate that you’re one of these “sexy beast” guys, you’re probably not doing the right things “by accident”.

2. The words you say actually don’t matter much. What matters is HOW you say them, both with your voice and with your body language».

3. It is possible to learn how to communicate that you’re a “sexually aware, confident man” using your body language» and voice tone. Learning this skill will make attracting women MUCH easier. Unfortunately, most men are too caught up in the idea of being macho and independent to work on this area of their life… and as a result, they waste most of their time in “quiet desperation”, never seeing any real improvement because they don’t seek help and use the help to improve.

In short, if you don’t know whether or not you project the kind of body language» and voice tone that makes women feel that emotional jolt of sexual attraction, then you can bet your last dollar that you aren’t. What’s a guy to do? Learn it, then use it.

When I first started learning about how to meet women, I can remember thinking that I needed to learn pick up lines and other tricks. I had no idea that this stuff was basically useless without the all-important understanding of how body language» works.

After a lot of trial and error, I started to realize that when my body language» and voice tone were correct, I could say ALMOST ANYTHING to women, and they would feel ATTRACTION.

Like most guys, you probably want to know WHY this is, as well as how to do it. Well, if you want to REALLY get a deep understanding of this topic, I suggest that you check out my new CD Audio Program. I spend several hours working on the “why”.

So in this newsletter, I’m going to focus on some of the “How To”…

Here are three things you can do to IMMEDIATELY increase your attractiveness to women:

1) Learn how to hold eye contact for longer than her.

If you see a woman that you find attractive, and she looks back at you, DON’T LOOK AWAY. Most guys become very self conscious and look away as soon as a woman notices them looking. This is a HUGE mistake.

If you want to communicate all the right things, you need to show IMMEDIATELY that you’re not afraid, and that you’re not at all self conscious about the fact that you are checking her out.

A good exercise is to walk through a mall for a few hours and look DIRECTLY at every woman you see. Walk into every store, and look directly into the eyes of every single woman you encounter… and DON’T LOOK AWAY UNTIL AFTER SHE DOES.

Do yourself a huge favor, and don’t open your eyes really wide and smile like a serial killer while you’re doing this exercise. Women don’t tend to enjoy that.

Just learn how to hold eye contact with a woman until she looks away…

This is very important.

2) Use confident posture.

Most men I see hold themselves in a way that says “I am not very confident about myself or anything I’m saying”.

And most of the guys I know who are chick MAGNETS hold themselves in a way that says “I’m the dominant male in this situation… I own this place”.

Suck in your stomach, hold your head up and back, pull your shoulders back, arch your back… and generally hold yourself like you’re the most powerful person you’ve ever seen or heard of.

Yea, I know this sounds dorky, but do it anyway.

You’ll probably feel strange and self conscious at first, but not to worry.

If you continue to practice your confident posture, you’ll soon become comfortable with it. And more important, you’ll attract attention from women.

Remember, women aren’t interested in finding another average Wuss Boy. Women aren’t ATTRACTED to WUSSIES.

Carry yourself like a manly man, and attractive women will notice and have INSTANT positive unconscious reactions to you.

3) Use SLOW, CALCULATED movements and gestures.

Watch a few James Bond films. And while you’re at it, check out “Dirty Rotten Scoundrels”.

Have you ever noticed that James Bond never looks like he doesn’t know how to act? And that he never fidgets or behaves nervously?

Everything James does is a little slower than is should be. He’s just too cool.

Try learning how to turn your head slowly, how to blink slowly, how to change facial expressions slowly… and how to gesture slowly.

This makes a huge impact on how others perceive you.

This kind of body language» transmits the message: “I’m so comfortable in my own skin, it hurts”.

4) Confident voice tone.

Most people speak with weak, squeaky voices that convey the message “I’m not confident… I have no self esteem”.

This turns women off. Big time.

If you want to attract beautiful women, you’re going to need to take a few lessons from Barry White.

Learn how to speak with a deeper voice. Learn to speak from down in your chest and stomach. Add more bass to your voice.

Also, learn how to speak slower… and how to articulate every word better. Become comfortable pausing… it creates anticipation. Most guys talk too much, too fast, and feel like they need to talk because they’re nervous. Don’t do it! Learn to lean back, relax, and become comfortable with the tension that comes from silence.

If you work on communicating with your BODY AND VOICE that you’re a confident, sexually aware, stuf-muffinly guy, then all the techniques you’re learning from me will work TEN times better. Really.

As you know, I really believe that it takes a DEEP understanding of how and why ATTRACTION works between men and women before you will actually begin to “GET IT” at that deep level in your GUT… which leads to ACTION.

When I put my new CD Audio Program together, I really focused on both the “Inner Game»” and the “Outer Game. In other words, I spent a lot of time teaching both the “why’s” of ATTRACTION, as well as the techniques and tricks to actually approach women, get phone numbers, get dates, and take things to a physical level. It’s taken me a long, long time to figure all of this stuff out, and I personally think it’s the best all-around education you can get on the topic of women and dating. Check it out at:

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And if you’d like to get an introduction to the main concepts, then download a copy of my online eBook “Double Your Dating” at:

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I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David D.

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