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“Critical Dating Mistakes Most Guys Make” – December 19, 2002

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“Critical Dating Mistakes Most Guys Make” – December 19, 2002

I want to share an interesting insight with you that not 1 in 100 men ever realize on their own. It’s actually TWO insights, but they’re two sides of the same coin.

It’s an amazingly OBVIOUS double insight, and once you know what it is, you’ll see evidence of it all around you, in every interaction between a man and a woman.

And it goes a little sumthin’ like this:

1. Most men behave like WUSSIES when it comes to women and dating.

2. Women NEVER feel the powerful and magical emotion called ATTRACTION for WUSSIES.

So let’s take them one at a time.

WHAT exactly IS a WUSSY?

A Wussy is a guy who kisses up to women.

A Wussy is a guy who does whatever a woman wants him to do, and doesn’t even know if or when a woman is testing him.

A Wussy is a guy who accepts manipulative behavior from women, and doesn’t care if a woman flakes out on him, takes advantage of him, or acts overly dramatic around him.

A Wussy is a guy who has no backbone, and caves when challenged by a woman.

A Wussy is a guy who feels that he needs to BUY or PAY FOR a woman’s attention and affection with gifts, dinners, compliments, and other forms of payment and flattery… because he can’t imagine that a woman would want to be with him just for HIM.

In short, a WUSSY is a submissive man who tries to compensate for his lack of ability to attract women by being overly accomodating and generous.


And if that wasn’t bad enough, here’s the REALLY bad news: Women will NEVER feel ATTRACTION for this kind of behavior, or this kind of guy!

Want some even WORSE news?

When this kind of tactic doesn’t work for a guy, he’ll usually TRY HARDER, and become even MORE of a WUSSY to make a girl like him… and the more a girl runs away, the more a WUSSY most guys become.

YOU DO THE MATH and figure out the outcome of this equation.

It totally blows my mind how a guy will kiss up to a woman and watch with HIS OWN TWO EYES as she becomes more and more distant… and instead of him realizing that it’s his own WUSS behavior that’s causing the woman to run away he just keeps doing it… AND EVEN INCREASING IT!

And how do I know this so well?

Because I, my friend, used to be a BIG TIME Wuss Bag.

Of course, when I think back about situations in my life where I behaved like a Wuss and caused a woman to lose her attraction for me, I slap my head and say “DUH!”

For whatever reason, it just wasn’t obvious to me in the moment.

And I think that MOST guys go their whole lives without realizing this critical insight.

Let me tell you something else that is VITALLY important for you to remember:


Notice that I didn’t say “Women are pretty good at figuring out whether or not you’re a Wuss”.

No no noooooo.


I’m talking special forces navy seal top gun covert opps here.


A woman can tell if you’re a Wussy, in most cases, BEFORE YOU EVEN OPEN YOUR MOUTH.

So if women aren’t attracted to Wussies, then why is it that they sometimes accept invitations to dinner, gifts, flowers, and attention from guys who are Wussies, only to reject them later on?

Well, think about it.

1. Free food is free food, and free gifts are free gifts… I mean, when the price is right, it’s right.

2. Women say to themselves “I really SHOULD date a nice guy instead of all these SEXY JERKS that I’ve been seeing. I’ll let Mr. Girly Man take me out to dinner a few times and maybe I can learn to like him”.

3. If a woman doesn’t have anything going on at all, dinner with a Wussy and a constant stream of compliments and attention is better than nothing.

4. Men are NOTORIOUS for showing their “non-Wuss” side early on, but then somehow turning into a woman’s worst nightmare Wuss Boy as the relationship progresses.

What to do, what to do?

Well, sometimes these things are like a substance abuse problem. The first step is ADMITTING that you’ve been being a WUSS all your life, and that you were doing the best you could with what you had to work with.

I often make fun of guys who act like Wussies, and bust on them unmercifally… but the fact is that I’ve been there, and I get it.

So step one is accepting yourself as you are, and making a commitment to yourself to improve from here on out.

Next, you need to learn how to EVICT your inner Wuss, and then it’s time to get down to business and learn how to create that magical feeling called ATTRACTION inside of women.

It’s not magic, and it’s not voodoo. Making women feel a powerful, gut-level ATTRACTION for you doensn’t require looks or money, and I honestly believe that almost ANY man can learn how to do it.

The amazing part about it is that we all have the NATURAL ability to communicate with women in a way that makes them feel ATTRACTION… but most of us guys never DEVELOPED this natural skill.

We either didn’t have good role models, we were programmed wrong by mom or other well-meaning people in our lives, or whatever.

But just because you haven’t yet learned how to use and develop these natural talents doesn’t mean that you CAN’T START NOW.

How do I know?

Because I used to have ZERO SKILL with women.

Just a few short years ago, I couldn’t even start a CONVERSATION with a woman I didn’t know… nevermind get dates and have success with UNUSUALLY ATTRACTIVE women.

But NOW I can. And it’s all because I spent the time it took to find and learn the secrets of the “naturals”, or the guys who had already figured out the skills that it takes to attract women.

If you’re ready to shed your past Wussy self, and learn the secrets of how to attract women that most men will NEVER learn in their entire lives, then I invite you to take advantage of the powerful products that I’ve put together.

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I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David D.

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