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“Secrets Of Dating BEAUTIFUL Women” – January 24, 2003

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“Secrets Of Dating BEAUTIFUL Women” – January 24, 2003


Or are they?

I get a lot of emails from guys who ask me what they should do, because they’ve met an UNUSUALLY attractive woman. It seems that most men intuitively guess that they need to do something SPECIAL with a REALLY hot woman… something different than they’d usually do.

If you are going to date BEAUTIFUL women, there are a few things that you should keep in mind.

First of all, they are still WOMEN.

So the concepts and techniques that you’ve learned from me will still apply.

But there are a few things that you will want to remember when you’re dealing with the UNUSUALLY attractive women.

1) She’s likely to be or have been a model, an actress, or a dancer (topless or otherwise).

When a woman goes through the experience of these professions, certain things occur like clockwork.

First of all, she’s quickly realizes that these industries are all filled with sleazy», opportunistic men who are REALLY in it for the sex.

This provides a unique sort of education for a woman, as she gets to practice “playing against” some of the best “players” out there.

These men have often been in the industry for many years, and have learned and created specific techniques for manipulating women… and getting sex from them.

After just a few months or a year in the business, most women come out the other side with a different perspective on men.

And they come out SMARTER. They know how to detect a man who is trying to tell stories just to get sex.

One of these women also learns how to make a man feel INSTANTLY uncomfortable if she doesn’t want to talk to him. It’s a natural, normal defense mechanism, and beautiful women are usually very good at it.

If she has been a topless dancer, then you can bet on a couple of things… One, she’s not going to tell you up front about it. Two, she’s going to have some issues when it comes to connecting with other human beings on a “real” level. Dancers have to learn how to ACT like real people, while disconnecting their actual true selves from the interactions. It’s usually not a good thing.

2) Beautiful women have more choices, but this often means that they’re also bored.

Most guys assume that a really beautiful woman is only interested in tall, rich, handsome men.

Well, these things certainly don’t hurt.

But guess what?

Just like anything else, the novelty wears off for beautiful women.

Sure, it’s nice to be 19 years old and riding around in a Mercedes, going to dinner at nice places, etc.

But beautiful women are still people, and people get bored with things quickly.

It doesn’t take long after you have everything you want… before you start wanting things just because you CAN’T HAVE THEM.

More on this in just a moment.

3) Beautiful women are used to being treated special because of their physical beauty, and not appreciated for their minds or talents.

Beauty creates distance.

The more beautiful a woman is (or makes herself with makeup, clothing, hairstyles, and other “enhancements”) the more difficult it becomes for other humans to interact with her and communicate with her in a “normal” way.

When you start talking to a woman who has obviously spent many hours preparing herself, putting on makeup, choosing just the right outfit, doing her hair, and MOST IMPORTANTLY practicing that certain “attitude” that creates the air of untouchable beauty, YOU CAN FEEL IT.

Something is very different.

She knows it and you know it.

And she WANTS you to know it…

Beauty gives women power. It gives women power because it causes men to GIVE AWAY their power.

…so let’s talk about what these things mean… and what to do about them…

How do you communicate to a model, actress or dancer that you’re comfortable with them, and not intimidated by their job or beauty?

Right! Make fun of them!

If a woman says “I’m a model”, say “Oh, like a parts model or something? What, do you have sexy toes?”

If she says “I’m an actress”, say “Nice, so what you’re telling me is that you’re a waitress, but you do some extra work on the side?”

If she’s a topless dancer, say “How did you get this job? What, did you have to pay someone off?”

Joking around, busting on them, and teasing INSTANTLY communicates that you’re NOT going to give them any special treatment for their “beauty job”, and that, if anything, you see their job as an “average” thing to be doing.

Works like magic.

To address the issue of beautiful women having more opportunities to live “the good life” and be spoiled by men who have money, etc…

As I said, everything in life gets boring if you get too much of it.

Sooner or later, every guy in a suit and tie with a Mercedes starts to blend into the next. And all the food starts to taste the same at nice restaurants (beautiful women never order anything off the menu without changing SOMETHING anyway).

So what does a woman who has it all WANT?

She wants to be CHALLENGED.

Here’s a GREAT mindset to take with a woman who seems to be a little too used to “the good life”…

Just say “You know what? You’re a spoiled BRAT.”

That should get her attention.

Then follow up with “It’s too bad you’re not more of a normal, nice girl…”

The protests should be starting by this point…

“But I AM a nice girl…”

“Suuuure you are. Me too.”

Are you with me?

The message is “Just because you’re spoiled and snotty, don’t think you’re going to get special treatment from me. In fact, it’s a problem.”

This creates a HUGE challenge (which attractive women love), and sets you apart from all the other “boring” guys she’s been out with lately.

Will some women stick their noses up in the air and laugh at you? Sure, it will happen once in awhile. Good. It’s better sooner than later… and I mean that.

And finally, to deal with the fact that Beauty creates distance, you must be strong… you must remember that her beauty is a freak accident of nature (combined with the magic of hair and beauty products).

Best way to proceed? Don’t mention or acknowledge her looks at all. Totally avoid the topic, and if she brings it up, just make fun of her.

This one idea alone, or ignoring her beauty and treating her like just another friend who you’re comfortable with will have a MAJOR effect.

Sometimes women will get so shaken by this that they’ll start acting NERVOUS. They’ll wonder if they have eyeliner running down their face, or if something else is wrong.

Here’s the deal: Women can tell INSTANTLY if you’re affected by their beauty. If you are, they know that they’re in control.

Most beautiful women wind up CRAVING attention.

They become so used to getting massive amounts of special attention that they HAVE to have it. It becomes part of life.

And when they meet a man that is interesting, charming, funny (AND COCKY!), they take note.

Is this everything? No, but it’s a damn good start.

Oh, one more IMPORTANT thing.

I’d like you to think for a moment about what it’s like when you see a REALLY beautiful woman walk by.

I’m talking about the kind of woman that you only see every few MONTHS or so… maybe once a year.

Think about how you stop, look again, keep looking…

And how it makes you feel inside.

Guess what?

To that unusually beautiful woman, most men seem the same. To her, men all blur together into a big mass of compliments, offers for dates, and attention.

But there is a type of guy that REALLY makes her stop, do a double take, and pay attention.

There is a type of guy that STANDS OUT… the kind of guy that comes along maybe every few months… or maybe only once a year.

The question I have for you is…


Or are you going to just be another one of the dozens and hundreds and thousands of guys that just stand and stare… or give away their power in hopes that this goddess will see fit to bless you with even a pinch of her attention?

If you want to know all the steps, top to bottom and front to back for how to be this kind of guy, then I have a hint for you…

My eBook “Double Your Dating“, which can you can download and be reading in just a few minutes…

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Most of my friends who date beautiful women aren’t rich, handsome, and famous. Most of them are regular guys who just happen to know something that most guys don’t.

I think it’s worth it to learn what they know.

Do you?

I’ll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David D.

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