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“The ‘Dating Masters’ Reveal Their Secrets…” – September 22, 2006

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“The ‘Dating Masters’ Reveal Their Secrets…” – September 22, 2006

So, let me ask you a quick question.

Who do you think is the world’s BEST dating teacher?

No, I’m not talking about myself, but thanks for thinking so…

I think the answer might surprise you.

The worlds best dating teacher is a WOMAN.

But not just any woman.

I’m talking about a woman who is “attractive and she knows it”.

You know the one.

I’m sure you’ve met her many times in your life.

You’ve probably had several “crushes” on her over the last several years.

And what did these “Super Babes” do when they realized that you “liked” them?


They did things that made your crush even MORE INTENSE… while at the same time NOT RETURNING the same level of interest.

I’m going to suggest to you that we can BOTH learn a lot about dating by paying attention to what ATTRACTIVE WOMEN do when a man shows interest.

Stay with me. This is about to get FASCINATING.

A few years back, a couple of women got together and wrote a book called “The Rules”. You’ve probably heard of it.

It’s the notorious book for women about how to get a man to commit to you and ultimately marry you.

It’s quite a book. You should read it.

In this book, the authors suggest all kinds of “unorthodox” techniques, like not calling men and rarely returning their calls, never approaching men, and generally playing “hard to get”.

Why did this book and other sequel books go on to sell MILLIONS of copies?

RIGHT! Because the techniques WORK to attract men and get them HOOKED.

More on this particular topic later.


I want to ask you to think about something for a minute.

Have you ever been dating a girl, and had her do something that made you feel nervous, jealous, insecure, or otherwise emotionally FREAKED?

Maybe you were out with her, and she started talking to another guy… and while she was talking to him you could tell that she was enjoying herself just a little bit too much.

Know what that feels like?

You WANT to believe that it’s all in your imagination… and that she’s just having a friendly conversation with someone… but your GUT IS TWISTING while you watch it happening.

Or maybe you have plans with a woman, but at the last minute (or even after the last minute) she calls and says “I don’t think I’m going to be able to make it tonight… I had something come up… OK, I’ll call you later”.

She doesn’t say exactly WHAT came up, or WHY she can’t make it, or WHY she chose to call you thirty seconds before she was supposed to actually arrive at your house.

And the worst part is that you say back to her, “Oh, don’t worry about it, it’s OK”, and then KICK YOURSELF afterwards…

Ever been there?

Or here’s one of my PERSONAL favorites…

You meet a girl, call her on the phone and talk to her, and everything seems to be going GREAT.

She tells you to call her later in the week and maybe she’ll be available.

You think about her for the next three days… but when you try to call her, she never answers the phone… and never returns any of your calls.

Yeah, it sucks.

All of these types of situations SUCK.

But the reality is that they all happen to most guys A LOT.


Now I want to explain why I gave these particular examples.

I want you to stop for a minute and think about something.

I want you to ask yourself the following question, then answer it HONESTLY:


Be honest now.

If you’re like most guys, then these particular things and others like them, made you think about the girl MORE.

They made you wonder what she was doing and what her INTENTIONS were.

And most of all, they made you WANT HER even more.

Strange as it may seem, these things, which SHOULD make you RUN AWAY, actually make you WANT HER.

What’s the deal?

Well, just like WOMEN aren’t logical, MEN aren’t logical either.

And if you’re honest about it, you’ll admit that you sometimes respond in STRANGE AND UNUSUAL WAYS to a woman’s flighty and manipulative behaviors.

Some of these types of crazy things that women do drive men WILD with desire and even jealousy… and often lead to OBSESSION.

It’s a crazy world, huh?


I say these things not because I want to piss you off.


I say them because I want you to start thinking about these types of things in a DIFFERENT WAY.

I want you to realize that the simple fact that a particular woman that you’re interested in doesn’t NEED you… and does things that clearly demonstrate it… often make her even MORE ATTRACTIVE to you.

Well guess what?

THE SAME GOES when it comes to making WOMEN fee ATTRACTION for YOU.

In other words, instead of getting UPSET with women for doing these things, LEARN FROM THEM.

And then use what you learn to create that magical emotion called ATTRACTION inside of women you’re interested in.

By the way, one of the most IMPORTANT things you can do with women is communicate that this kind of thing doesn’t “get to you”. If you want to learn more about keeping things like this from getting under your skin and freaking you out emotionally, then go and read THIS:

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I can hear it now.

The first response I often hear when I start talking this way, and recommending that men use what they learn to actually CAUSE women to feel ATTRACTION, usually goes something like this:

“But David, if I consciously do things to make women feel attracted to me, aren’t I manipulating them?”

Most of us guys want to be “good guys”.

We don’t like to lie, cheat, and steal.

And we don’t like to do sneaky things that don’t FEEL RIGHT.

I get it.

But here’s the BIG DIFFERENCE.

When I recommend a technique, for instance:

“Don’t act like a Wussy.”

“Give her the gift of missing you.”

“Tease and bust her balls.”

“Date other women.”

“You be the one to end calls, dates, and other interactions… and do it a little too soon… on an up note.”

…I’m NOT recommending that you do secret, deceptive things to “trick her into liking you”.


Instead, I’m teaching you the principals of ATTRACTION.

I’m teaching you examples of things to do that communicate a FAR MORE IMPORTANT IDEA…


The more you actually DO these things, the more you begin to “get it”, and become the type of guy that naturally attracts women.


At the beginning of this newsletter I told you that an ATTRACTIVE WOMAN is the best dating teacher there is…because she does things that ALMOST NATURALLY AMPLIFY the ATTRACTION that men feel for her.

One of the KEYS to this natural ability is communicating that she doesn’t NEED the particular guy that she’s with.

When she does these little things to communicate that she doesn’t NEED a particular guy, those things tend to AMPLIFY the ATTRACTION that the guy feels.

We’ve all had it happen to us many times, so I know that you know exactly what I’m talking about.

So from now on, instead of getting UPSET at women for calling at the last minute to cancel plans, getting annoyed when they talk to other guys, etc., LEARN FROM IT.

Use it to understand how YOU should approach ATTRACTIVE WOMEN… and how to behave so that YOU are the one who creates and amplifies the attraction in HER.

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And I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

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