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“Change Your Self-Image For Dating Success” – January 15, 2008

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“Change Your Self-Image For Dating Success” – January 15, 2008


I’ve got an important question for you:

How important do you think “Self Image” is when it comes to meeting and dating women?

Would you rate it as “very important”… like a ten on a scale of 1-10?

Or maybe “not very important”?

Would you give it a two or a three?

Well, I personally think that Self Image is INCREDIBLY important when it comes to meeting women…

In fact, if you carry around an image in your head of a guy who isn’t successful with women, then it’s going to be VERY difficult to KEEP a woman interested in you… even if you use a cool “technique” or “trick” to attract her in the first place.

Why is this?

Well, you may have read articles about people who win the lottery, then lose all the money within the next few years…

And you probably said to yourself “That dumb- ass… how could they lose millions of dollars in a few years like that?”.

I thought the same thing the first few times I heard about it.

Then I heard about a TV show on the subject… and read articles about the topic.

It turns out that it happens a lot more than you’d think. I’ve even heard estimates that said that MOST people who win the lottery lose all the money within the first five years after winning.

What’s going on here?

I personally think that a LOT of it has to do with SELF-IMAGE.

In their minds, these people have an image of a poor person. That image is stronger and more powerful than the REALITY that they’re living in… the reality of having the money.

So they get rid of it.

The picture in their minds is so powerful that they have to MAKE IT REAL.

I think that another critical aspect of this phenomenon is that most people who win the money have never HAD that much money… so they don’t know what to DO with it.

In other words, they never LEARNED what to do once they GOT SOME money.

This leads to them making all kinds of mistakes that “screw it up” for themselves.

It’s pretty sad, really.

So what does this have to do with meeting and dating women?

A lot.

I’ve mentioned my latest book “Attraction Isn’t A Choice” to you a few times now. There are a few things I’d like to tell you that I might not have mentioned before…

The first thing I want to tell you is that my new eBook comes with a special BONUS book that I’ve called “How To Change Yourself”.

I wrote this bonus book SPECIFICALLY to deal with some of the issues that I’ve just mentioned.

One of the things I talk about in this book is the idea of how to change your self-image… so you don’t SCREW IT UP once you DO find a woman that you like.

I also explain how to get rid of “negative thinking” that causes you to HESITATE when you see a woman you’d like to meet…

If you find yourself always coming up with reasons why things WON’T work, or why you SHOULDN’T talk to a girl… or why you’re going to FAIL in a situation, then you need to go and do something about that NOW.

It’s not helping you.

Do you have a “fear of failure”?

In this bonus book, I’m going to teach you how to deal with it… and OVERCOME it.

Do you have trouble controlling your emotions when you’re around a woman that you feel attracted to?

I’ll teach you some great tips and tricks for TAKING CONTROL… so you’re the one calling the shots instead of your emotions.

Did I mention that this book was a “free bonus”?

I’m serious.

This comes as a bonus along with the MAIN book, which is the REAL “secret success manual”.

The focus of my new book is on teaching you to understand the “attraction mechanism” that is inside of every woman.

When you UNDERSTAND how and why women feel attraction for men, you’ll know exactly what you need to do to TRIGGER that feeling in every situation.

But don’t take my word for it…

I want you to see it for yourself.

Here’s my offer to you:

Go download my new eBook AND the bonus book that comes along with it… and TRY IT. You can download it at my risk… and if you don’t like it, I won’t even bill you for it.

I’m using the old “try before you buy” trick on you… and I hope it works… because it’s a genuine offer.

I think you should have the chance to read it ALL THE WAY through, try out some of the things you’re going to learn, THEN decide if you want to pay.

It’s the kind of offer I’d want if I were buying something like this, and I hope it makes you feel good about trying my newest book.


There’s another SPECIAL BONUS offer that is available RIGHT NOW when you try out this eBook and bonus book… and you can read about it on the actual website.

All the details are here:

[products info link]

I’ll talk to you again soon,

David D.

P.P.S. If you’d like to send me a Success Story, Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines:

1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max.

2) Tell me what’s working for you before you ask your question. I appreciate all of the “Your stuff is great” and “I don’t need to tell you how well your stuff works” comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of the specifics… because this helps other guys to see what’s working in different situations.

3) If you have a Success Story, write “Success Story” in the subject line of the email. I read these first.

4) At the end of the email, give me your initials and tell me where you’re from.

5) Send it to me at:

[newsletter sign-up link]

…don’t just hit “reply” to this email.


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