Introduction
Everyone can agree that self-improvement is a good thing. Society encourages it, and individuals intuitively know it is better to improve oneself than to remain unchanged or atrophy. Most self-improvement advice centers on improving oneself mentally or physically, achieving what one wants in greater sums (be it love, sex, money, etc.), and improving oneself through social contribution.
Basic advice that both sexes share involves improving health, improving wealth, and being able to live normally in society (even if it means only a subset of society or counter-culture within overall society!). None of those areas warrant greatly differing advice for each sex (aspects of sexual and reproductive organs and different anatomy not withstanding). When it comes to dating, sex, relationships, and love?, men and women require different advice. This difference exists because, beyond the being basically healthy and wealthy, it takes vastly different methods for a man to attract (and keep) a woman than it does for a woman to attract (and keep) a man. Men and women select mates according to different criteria. Consequently, self-improvement advice differs for each sex in the areas of seeking out, meeting, attracting, seducing, and having sex with, well, the other sex.
Advice for Women
For women in modern society, advice for seeking out, meeting, attracting, seducing, and having sex with men is plentiful. Society greatly encourages women to go beyond the normal bounds of advice common to the sexes. Women have endless magazines, books, web sites, television channels, and general media-driven advice available to them, as well as implicit approval that such topics of conversation are very acceptable. In particular, society most greatly encourages women how to attract men: how to act, how to talk, what to talk about, attitudes, makeup, hair styling, clothes, physical alterations, fashion, high heels, push-up bras, etc. At the same time, society chastises women for outwardly making themselves available or initiating sexual encounters with men they attract, outside of already-established relationships. In other words, society encourages women to be sexy and attract men, but discourages acting on such attraction. This does not necessarily define what women REACT to or how they ultimately act when they are attracted to a man, only what society deems as acceptable and/or what society defines as the "norm" (even if the "norm" is not really the norm, if such a thing were truly measurable).
Advice for men
For men in modern society, advice for seeking out, meeting, attracting, seducing, and having sex with women is sparse. This sparseness is especially strange, because females are more
selective than males, which would lead one to anticipate that there should be more advice for men. The
mainstream advice that does exist resides almost solely in the realm of counter-productive behavior or jokes (like [pickup lines]
?), or it is limited to physical improvement, achieving material goals, and clothing. Practically no truly useful/practical advice exists for men on how to meet women in the first place, and certainly not how to attract women they desire - unless such advice is basically material in nature. As with women, this does not necessarily define what men ultimately do or say, only what society deems as acceptable and/or what society defines as the "norm" (even if the "norm" is not really the norm, if such a thing were truly measurable).
Society's Advice and Norms
So, if such things are truly not measurable, how can it be shown that society's norms do not reflect how sexuality and relationships actually work? That is simple. Take a look around yourself and see if the way you have been taught to perceive sexuality and relationship can give you satisfying explanations and predictions for how people behave in reality.
The advice that exists at large in society for either sex tends to be anything but productive. For women, it may be plentiful but other than physical improvements, it generally does not work to provide them what they truly seek. For men, the advice is sparse and almost always lacking in practicality, and is generally counter-productive, although society and those indoctrinated into society will vehemently deny this to be the case and, rather, defend such presumptions of the norm as the truth.
The Truth
So, what is the truth? The fact that you have read this far indicates you are prepared to hear the truth. If you are not prepared to hear the truth, then stop reading now and re-enter society and continue living what you BELIEVE to be the truth.
The truth is that roughly only 20% of the men sleep with 80% of the women. If know yourself to not be in that 20% or you are not achieving the success with women that you want, then this Wiki, and this whole web site and all the resources on it and associated with it will completely change both your perceived reality and your real reality. First, your perception must change. If you find this difficult to do, then at first just allow yourself to make the presumption that your perception might not be reality. Realize that if there is even one area in this world that you want success that you don't yet have (like success with women), then the way you have been trained to perceive that area may not reflect reality. Now, when you're able to do that you can start to understand and absorb advice here and be on your way to productive improvements, behavior changes, and different ways of thinking and acting than you may currently be used to in order to start achieving the kind of success and life with women that you want.
How to use this Wiki
This Wiki is being maintained to be extremely easy to use and navigate, with all contributions coming from long-term
mASF members and nurtured by the overall
Seduction Community. The top-level pages will guide you through the whole process of understanding both the concepts and practical applications pickup and seduction. All such documents will also link you to terms that may not be immediately familiar. It probably will not be possible to read this Wiki in a linear fashion, so the best thing to do is focus on the topics that are most relevant to you and where you are at in the process of pickup and seduction (referred to generally and commonly as "[the game]
?").
If you have a contribution to make, and such a contribution is known by you to truly be of practical value, repeatable by other men, and not just regurgitated societal advice, then you can have edit access by being a member of mASF for at least 3 months and contributed at least 10 posts there. The reason for that is so members of the community have an appreciation for who you are and the relevance of what you're sharing. If you already have an mASF account and match these requirements then you will see an "Edit This Page" option available to you.
If you need help in understanding what a Wiki is or how to edit Wiki pages, a good basic place to start is http://www.fastseduction.com/wiki_formatting.shtml and a great example of a (pretty huge) Wiki is [Wikipedia]».
All the contributors to this Wiki hope you find it of great use and wish you much success!
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