Ok... look. There seems to be a lot of umming and ah-ing about this whole Wingman situation, vis-a-vis do's and don'ts. I've been working at all this Jazz for a little while now, both on my own, and recently with a wingman, so I felt I'd chuck my 2 cents onto the pile. Firstly, asking if a wingman is good or bad is a dumb question, because the answer is obvious. A good wingman is good, a bad one is bad. Duh. But what makes a good wingman, and what are the relative merits of going out in pairs, or "On The Samurai" like a lone warrior?
Lets look at these one at a time. First off, Samuraiing is pivotal for a couple of reasons. Firstly, it's scary. Fucking scary. Especially at first when you've got nothing but a handful of memorised lines and you keep gibboning on about a female perspective on your mate's jealous girlfriend. At the same time, if you want to improve your game, it is the motherfucking crucible which separates the guys who will succeed from the guys who pussy out. You get better almost in spite of yourself, and although it can take what seems like an age to get results, it gives you a basic toolset.
Secondly, think about it. If you can perfect (or at least become effective at) the Samurai, you never need to rely on anyone. Ever. You're out with mates and they're leering at some stunner over in the corner - you just cruise the fuck up like the fonz and get her digits and they'll look at you as if you're the man. Because you will be.
Also, on a purely logistical level - what happens if your mates aren't up for going out tonight? You still want to chance your arm. Just say fuck it and go out on your own. Problem solved.
Functionally, going out on the Samurai works. You can and will get laid. There are many things you can say to cover the fact you're on your own - "I just came from work," or "my friends are just over there" (dropped into the first 10 secs of chat - it nullifies a lot of shit and they very rarely call you on it). There are others, but this is not the post for that.
Finally, and perhaps most importantly, going out on the Samurai takes a shitload of courage and every time you do it you are a motherfucking hero. No shields, no timewasting, nothing to hide behind, just you versus the world of women. Fuck yes. You do that, you approach 5 chicks a night, then whatever happens you are the man by default.
But anyway, back to the thread - Winging. If you have developed your skills through Samuraiing, you can often find the kind of mental agility it gives you allows you to carry a wing who's being a bit AFCish. There are limits - most AFC 's fall into one of two extremes - extreme shyness of extreme loudness. That's pointless. Just Samurai in that situation and keep your eyes out for guys who you can trust not to massively fuck up.
But, I hear you cry, why would you want to carry a wing? Surely a wing should help carry you? Well yes, I'd reply - but you can play cool winging games - like alternate who does the approach. One person nominates, the other takes point, then the next time you swap. Keeps the pace up too. You can rack up the approaches like no-one's business. Secondly, you've got someone there to prove you're not a total loser. You have at least one friend. This does make a difference, especially when approaching groups of women. It reduces the instant blowout factor by about 50% before you even open your mouth.
But more than that, these are 3 fucking powerful things that you can do with a wing that you can't do without one.
1 Introduce each other's stories. (eg "Hey dude - that reminds me - tell them about that time when you beat up those muggers" or whatever)
2 Boast on each other's behalf - (eg "you better not mess with this guy - he got a first at University/has a Black Belt in Karate" - then your wing acts all nonchalant or whatever.)
3 Laugh at each other's fucking jokes.(duh. this is pivotal. so simple, so important. Never have a joke fall flat on the group.)
On top of that there's the basic positioning stuff about distracting the obstacle. That's cool, but in order to do that well as a wing yourself, you need some good chat, and that only comes from getting out there into the field, facing your fears and generally being an all round hero.
Finally - and this is a real tricky bugger, but always, always, always try to get a wing WHO IS BETTER THAN YOU ARE. shit wings will be ten-a-penny once you get good enough at Samuraiing to have a dash of game. Work alongside a real player - you start to really pick up the skills, the lines and the motherfucking vibe which pulls it all together.
I know this has been a long post, and I make no apologies. This is because I am not sorry. Deal with it.
Ever yours,
I.
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One equal temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will,
To strive, to seek, to find; and not to yield.
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