Yikes! I've been reading this site for a week now, and already learned A LOT, but I didn't have a chance to try values and patterns till today.Today, a girl crashes into my ICQ, I didn't know her, she picked by randomly to chat a little...
After some fluff she wanted to exchange pictures, but turns neither of us has any good ones at hand, so she went on to descripe herself in the usual "I'm 1.85cm etc..." whereas I said WAIT, that's so boring, lets do it differently....tell me what kind of animal you would be, or what actress looks familiar to you.
She mentioned a few big cats (Leopards, Gepards etc...) and Scully (from the X-Files).
Which suits me fine, cuz I was going to descripe myself as a Leopard anyway...
Well, then I asked her, if she was scully, what would her ideal man be like?
She said she wanted someone who'd look out after her...
HEHE BIG direct hint here (she pretty much discared telling me MEANS values and gave me an END value, like being "safe"
and from there I went like
"yeah, you want a guy who leads you, and who protects you...with such a guy you'd FEEL safe and protected, and dont we all want to feel like that...
a guy with strong arms into which you can hide from the world..."
(at which point she wrote "yeah, that sounds great..."
But since I wasn't going to make her feel like a weakling I added something:
"of course, only if the world is mean...if the world is cool, then you go out and feel exciting"
(I knew that she liked to feel like an "exciting girl" because a little earlier we talked about shopping and she told me she wanted to dress fine, and I asked her how dressing up makes her feel...)
Now, this was the next message to me, basically while I was still writing the above part...
She: "yes, when I'm feeling not so well...then I like someone who cares for me..."
Notice how she qualifies the "protective feelings" by saying "yes, when I'm feeling not so well", and I already sent her a message saying "yes, when the world is mean to you..."
so we basically said the same thing at the same time...
again, I connected to her saying, and told her that when shes feeling fine she'll go out there and show everyone what a power-woman she is - like Scully...
So basically, I made her feel two things - first, the "protected" one when the world is bad - and when life is good, I made her feel like her favorite power woman from TV...
At that point she was saying how perfectly that comparison suited her...
I then gave a short joke about "my mind reading chip is working well" and then told her again
"yeah, finding such a guy, where you can dream, where you can let yourself drop...and you know there's someone to catch you..."
...yeah, same pattern again - the guy with the strong arms protecting her...
At this point she goes jokingly "hey, stop, my thoughts are private..."
And then I rub it in...
"Isn't it nice when you feel so connected to someone, especially if you just met that someone online"...
and she "I really dont know what I should say anymore...", she's totally off her feet.
YEEEEHAW!
I can do it!
Shes not from my country (and the translation might have suffered from german to english) but you get the idea. She told me about feeling exciting and "being scully" and I have her two perfect patterns, and she's like "wow hes reading my mind".
GREAT STUFF.
Holy shit, this works...
