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anamchara Newbie     This is probably an odd question. What I'd like to know is whether there are any NLP patterns for getting a girl to LOSE sexual attraction... I'm in a situation where a girl in my social circle is really in to me. The problem is, she's not my type. She's a really sweet girl, but I have no interest in pursuing anything more than friendship. I've tried telling her my feelings already, but she hasn't stopped flirting with me. I'm in an ackward position, because I don't want to just piss her off... that could hurt my connection with mutual friends. Is there any way I could work a pattern into conversation that would reduce her sexual attraction to me, but not her friendship? ----- ~~~anamchara~~~ Total Posts: 2 | Joined Sep. 2005 | Posted on: 1:54 pm on Sep. 26, 2005 | IP Hysteria Junior Member     I wanna say the Door Pattern, but it doesn't sound 100% suited towards this situation. LJBF her. Haha. Total Posts: 64 | Joined Aug. 2005 | Posted on: 11:35 pm on Oct. 1, 2005 | IP Wooks Newbie     I have the same situation here, i also have a friend who is a little to close to me then i would like, I didn't understand why until recently i read something "the less you try, the more you get it" what happened was, i attracted comforted and seduced her, in the past i know she was in love with me, i was just fooling around, but now, its like i can't get her to stay off me. And i can't piss her of either becouse she still is a good friend, and my other friends wouldn't like it at all. ----- I never fail, i just learn a lot from my many mistakes!! Total Posts: 2 | Joined Dec. 2005 | Posted on: 2:49 pm on Dec. 9, 2005 | IP psychobilly Newbie     you shouldn't get her to leave you alone instead use the social proof to build relationships with other women. think about how cool do you look if women fawn all over you. Other women see that too and they are intrigued. if anyone asks just say no I wouldn't sleep with her but she's cool. Total Posts: 1 | Joined May 2006 | Posted on: 9:42 am on May 26, 2006 | IP FUBAR Newbie     I know the problem is more than likely solved, but I'm posting a reply for anyone who comes across this in the future. If you have a friend who has unwanted feelings for you, the solution is simple. Keep things simple.   Think of it this way: If you have feelings for one of your female friends, and she has no interest in you (think back before you knew ANY of this material), what would she say to you? She would likely say something along the lines of "awwww I think you're a great guy but we're such good friends. I really can't take the chance of screwing up our friendship."   Now to an AFC with one-itis, this sounds like "I like you too but you need to work harder for me." So months later, you're still chasing after her and get no where.   To the girl, this actually meant: "Listen, I'm not into you, I was never into you, and I will never be into you. Now back the fuck off because we're friends and I don't want to have to reject you anymore. Just fucking DROP IT."  So turn this around. If a friend likes you and you aren't attracted to her, simply say: "You know what? You really are a great girl. I value our friendship and I really can't take the chance losing you as a friend."   DO NOT APOLOGIZE. Simply leave it at that. If you say you're sorry, she'll feel stupid. Simply act like it isn't a big deal. Girls will understand this. Read through this site for proof: http://www.laddertheory.com/  Just be straight forward with them as if it isn't a big deal and it won't be. If you SEEM uncomfortable, she will feel like a moron. ----- FUBAR Total Posts: 15 | Joined July 2006 | Posted on: 4:37 pm on Aug. 4, 2006 | IP Lukeyboy8 Newbie     this question u answered above is an easy just tell the poor girl that u don't have feelings for her and that you don't want to go into a relationship with because u don't want to hurt her feelings. Just tell them how u feel and go straght too the point No Bull. and oh tell her that u still want to be friends with her but that's all then invite her out say lets go to the movies, i know that sounds like a date etc etc but it's not really it's making her feel happy again. and oh tell her that u will help her find a better guy then what u are etc etc up to yhou i've been down the same situation and i did what i just said and we are still friends to this day. ----- *lukey* Total Posts: 38 | Joined Sep. 2006 | Posted on: 2:59 am on Sep. 18, 2006 | IP

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