“Emotions Management” (by Phenix) | PUA Archive | alt.seduction.fast.tactics-techniques

Hello

This is by far on of the most important things I have learned to leave happy
and have full control of my life and of my inner self. Every people I told of
and that have used this are regularly are coming back to me to thank. Well,
words can't even tell… just try, trust me on this one.
Most of us already process emotions on a partial range of intensities, variable
by emotion type and by periodes… But what matters (really appropriate
term) is those emotions we don't cope with.

NB : What follows is a simplification (sorry if it loses exactitude) of
clinical reality.
The whole mechanisms are far more complex, have more layers that are
independent, have no influence on the mechanics described here, or which have
been bluntly mixed into simpler postulates.
Just concentrate on these mechanics, their sense and implications are way more
important than words (and the simplification here won't restrain you from
presenting a thesis on this if you feel like doing so ; ).

Emotions are signals

Basically, emotions are signals. They are emitted by our unconscious to tell us
about how something is dangerous, enjoyable, desirable…
- Fear = There is something that threatens, that you don't want to
- Anger = There is something you should consider getting on to
- Frustration = There is something that keeps you off an objective or desired
state
- Love = There is someone that matches your ideals, makes you feel good,
…
- Etc.
When the message is not taken into consideration, it becomes stronger and
stronger, until overwhelming and affecting internal frame and other mechanisms
of the mind.

Negative emotions vicious cycle

What we do naturally is fucking up with the sense of those emotions, in
particular negative ones. We tend to associate them with the problem they are
here to ask resolution of.
As we see them as the problem, we push them back.
We do not accept the signal, the meaning they carry (generally the opposition
of a fact with an other fact, most often one of them taken from what we give
obviously significant value to).
The message is not saying us to feel angry or bothered because of something, it
is here to tell us "you should try to avoid that this something turns bad
for what you aspire to".
So it will go stronger, as everything that is pushed back. Then we push back.
It comes back stronger. Until it overwhelms, and begins to contaminate what is
around.

Process your negative emotions

You can avoid feeling bad.
When you feel the least little bad feeling, don't push it back like you
maybe accustomed to, or wait until it gets stronger.
(I suggest you do it now with a thing that bothers you, you will better see the
effectiveness of this and it will appear less theoretical. Think of something
that mildly pisses you.)
Catch this feeling.
Grab it. Now. Even if in the middle of a a difficult PU with a 12+ SHB-oneitis
(not for the sample, you joker).

Analyze:
- What feeling is this ? Fear, anger, pain, concern, hurt, hate…
- What triggers this feeling ? What physical sense (sight, hearing&#8230 or
thought brought the ? What item brought by this perception exactly triggered
the feeling ?
- Make a sentence.
"I feel concernedbecause of this chick Body Language^»".
"I feel frustratedbecause of what my boss says."
- Why ? What is the threat to your well being or to your objectives ? Make full
sentence.
"I feel concerned because this chick BL is saying she wants to go away,
and this is a threat to my objective of laying her".
"I feel concerned because this bastard is taking all the merit and not
recognizing that MY job is great and the real reason of the success and I
wanted to be recognized for this achievement"

Accept. Most important of all, ACCEPT the message. Don't shoot the
messenger, accept something is not right as you would like.
Then you will have no more pressure from the signal. You got the message.
Point.
Then you are aware of your problem. You can decide to do nothing about it, or
you can decide that you will put on a plan at the nearest opportunity, or you
can decide to tackle the problem in the next second.

Now just be attentive… you do not have anymore the full signal intensity
(at worst a little intensity indicator you can consult when needed): no
frustration, no more fear, no more anger or no more concern.
How about your sample/test problem ?

Improve your life

Firs remember that processing an emotion will be the only effective way to get
rid of it, so don't drive back the worst of your emotions (it
definitively does not get you rid of them). Process them. Then you'll be
free from that overwhelming feeling that does not let you able to act.
If you cannot manage something fully in the instant, just accept that there is
something that bothers you and that you will process it later, set a time &
place (and respect if, otherwise… guess what happens).

Second, practice this processing systematically. Never let any negative stuff
be driven back, even if your definitive pick is to let go and don't do
anything to change it.
In a few days, you will have get rid of most of your current emotional negative
problems.
In a few weeks, you will feel far better.
In a few months, this will be automatic and processing will occur almost
instantly (the sentence will come full intuitively).

Well… I think of this stuff as great gift I have been given by a friend
of mine, and I hope by giving it to you now, that a lot of you will take profit
of this as I do.

If you have questions, "field reports", or encounter difficulties,
just let me know ; )

Phenix

"Men occasionally stumble over the truth, but most of them pick
themselves up and hurry off as if nothing had happened."
Winston Churchill

PS : For those that are asking what this is related to PU technique, the two
main points are :
a) If you are not a complete beta asexual with no instinct at all, you wil get
many emotional signals during a PU whose processing is way crucial to you
screwing in the end
b) With a happy and harmonious inner game^», you will get FAR better results
Yes, this PU value is somehow a mere side effect of this, but it can have a
tremendous effect on your results if you had problems with your emotions this
far, or even allow you to cope with a single huge emotional problem within a
relationship or to avoid most aspects of a oneitis.