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Dealing with rejection

Ideally, that should never happen. Whatever you did to get rejected (a serious dumb-ass pick-up line, asking for a dance out of the blue, offering to buy a girl a drink, trying a close when all her signs were screaming "I'm not interested!" etc), you should seriously reconsider you approaches. You are there to make the woman feel good, better than she's ever felt before in her life. Remember, the attitude to have when is "Hmm, let's find out how much incredible and ticklish fun this woman can stand:)". If however you come to a point of being rejected, you have twice failed - for some reason, neither did you make her feel good nor did you notice this fact, which in itself constitutes a second failure.

Nevertheless, getting rejected happens to the best of'em:) In many cases, they get rejected because they don't really care too much, they see the signs of the girl not being interested, but they push on nevertheless, call that lazyness if you wish:) They know they can get any girl anyway, even this one, if they tried a little more / a little less / a different approach etc. But they just don't care, maybe she'll turn around eventually anyway, and if not, who cares. From time to time however, rejection gets even them by surprise:) This is how some of them deal with it.


Say "It's been a pleasure meeting you:)". Say it like you really really mean it - in a friendly, respectful yet empathic manner. This way:

  • you'll make her see that her behaviour didn't get to you one bit, you don't NEED her company, you just offered her a chance to be in your company
  • you'll set yourself apart from all the losers who leave mumbling "bitches, they're all the same…" after having striked out
  • you'll remain cool, confident, a gentleman in good humour. And she'll feel crappy after realising SHE just lost YOU!:)

Or if she has simply ignored you, add "...didn't realise you were deaf:)"

Ross Jeffries: "I never attach excess meaning to winning or losing with women. What I basically I mean is to realise that if a woman accepts you, it doesn't mean that the next one will, so stay on your toes, and don't get lazy or sloppy. And if she rejects you, it just means that the approach you tried, at this particular time, with this particular woman, hasn't worked... yet. It might work at another time with her, or you may just need another approach. Even if it doesn't, as I once told a friend of mine who only thought he saw me get rejected... I never get rejected. I only discover if a woman has good taste!!"

The good thing about using patterns if they're new to you, from the article in Playboy: "Parroting someone else's words, it didn't feel like my ego was on the line the way it normally is. Maybe that's the key. If I don't get over with her, it won't be a personal rejection of me. She just didn't go for the material. In the language of Jeffries, I'm on a fishing trip, and I want to see if I can land something quickly. I'm not going to get hung up on any one fish."

More about dealing with rejection from the same article: "Truth is, most successful seducers I've known don't hit for a high average. James Toback, the writer and director of The Pickup Artist, whom I met in Los Angeles in 1980, was as compulsive and tireless in his pursuit of women as anyone I've ever seen, and a lot said no. But Toback told me he never took rejections personally: "If someone didn't respond to me, the only effect was to make me think I was wrong about her, that I had made a mistake. As Jeffries says, "The difference between losers and winners is that losers don't fail enough." And he's right. You have to step up to the plate. If it's not your natural inclination, then having a strategy is helpful and using suggestive language is good. Even if the NLP stuff is a gimmick, a lot of late-night hooey, you'd be better off out there using it than you would be at home in front of the television, watching the infomercial."

Ross Jeffries's attitude: "The worst that can happen, is that you find out some girl doesn't want to play with you". Remember - you were about to give her a fantastic gift (be it through patterns or an orgasm of a lifetime:). If she turns you down - poor girl, she doesn't know what she just lost:)

Mr Happy, ASF: "Rejection is a good thing, not a bad thing. The more I get rejected, the more I will get laid. I learn something every time. If a woman rejects me it just shows how stupid she is. My gain, her loss."

The reasons for a girl to reject you according to Johnny Shack ( Keep in mind though, that Mr Shack seems to prefer the numbers game without wanting to do much individual groundwork of making the girls like him beforehand. He just presents himself as best he can, makes his offer as sincere and compelling as he can, and if rejected, turns to these reasons in his mind:

"There are only three reasons that will cause a rejection. Believe in them and you will be unbeatable!

1. She has a boyfriend.

2. She already wants a friend of your's.

3. She doesn't have the confidence to say yes. You need to work out whether you want to chase this woman or not. Many women really do not feel they are good enough to be asked on a date and therefore automatically say no. She may also have been burn't by some guy recently or in the past and this attributes to her lack of confidence. The problem the woman faces is that the longer she goes on with this and doesn't face her fears then the more like vinegar she becomes. Also many women for various reasons have this idea that by not going out with anyone it makes them more desirable. I think it just grows cobwebbs!

So guys you really don't know what is going on in their minds. If they say "No" then the logical way is to remember these three points. It stops you losing confidence. Remember that your state of mind is determined by the information you feed it with."

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