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"Be Calm, Unaffected, and In Control" / January 1st, 2007

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Be Calm, Unaffected, and In Control
by Ray Devans of The Art of the Pickup
January 1st, 2007

Throughout your journey to become better with women, you need to adapt the mannerisms of men who are successful with women. The problem is that often you might not know exactly what these mannerisms are.

A great way to get around this problem is to adapt the mannerisms of men who are known to be successful with women. These can be men you know personally who are successful with women, but also can be actors who act in roles where they attract women.

This might not seem like a good idea at first because people always like to say “things are different in Hollywood”, but the fact is that Hollywood dictates a lot of the way most people see the world especially when it comes to determining what is attractive. And if women are affected by Hollywood in this way (and they are) then you can bet that you are on the right track if you act like these leading men.

In case nobody comes to mind immediately, I have a few personal favorites to give you. Just about any of the actors who played James Bond are great, with Sean Connery topping the list. Whereas most men his age only bring the image of a grandfather to mind, many women still consider him to be extremely sexy.

George Clooney is another somewhat older guy who still manages to make women melt. Brad Pitt may seem to be a no brainer choice also because of his great looks, but pair him with Clooney in the Ocean’s 11 movies and you have a template for how to act in order to turn on women. Or if you want a guy who breaks the good looking guy stereotype, check out “The Tao of Steve”.

You might be wondering what it is exactly about these guys that women find so appealing. After a lot of thought about this myself, I think that 4 words from “The Art of the Pickup»DVDs sum it up really well.



In Control.

At any given time you see these guys on the silver screen, they are portraying these three characteristics. When was the last time you saw James Bond lose his calm and freak out? Or George Clooney get affected by a woman testing him? Or Brad Pitt losing his control with a woman? You get the point.

To think of the opposite behavior, all you need to do is go to your local bar and watch guys get blown out with women when they approach them. The guys who wind up blurting out things like “you are such a bitch!” after getting rejected are showing the kind of behavior you want to avoid at all costs.

But instead by maintaining these three characteristics at all times with women, you are saying so much on a non-verbal level. You are telling them that you are someone who can be a constant force in their lives. That your life is that way you want it to be so other people can’t ruffle your feathers.

And if your life is the way you want it to be then it is probably something other people would like to be part of. You are saying that you have had many experiences with women and their attempts to catch you off balance so it doesn’t work on you. Which further says that you must have a lot going for you if so many women have tried to test you.

The list can go on and on, but the silent non-verbal messages of being constantly calm, unaffected, and in control say all the right things that you want a woman to know.

You can watch your favorite actors on your own at any time, but if you are ready to get a video breakdown that explains it all in more detail, be sure to calmly grab yourself a copy of “The Art of the Pickup»DVDs.

Until next time,

Devans… Ray Devans…

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