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"Women Love Sex Just as Much as Men Do" / September 25th, 2006

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Women Love Sex Just as Much as Men Do
by Ray Devans of The Art of the Pickup
September 25th, 2006

I want to share some deep insights into the psychology and biology of women with you today, insights that will really help you.

The title of this newsletter almost says it all: women love sex just as much as men do. But first, I might have to convince you of this, and explain how you can use it to your advantage.

If you think like I used to think, you might find it hard to believe that women love sex as much as men do. If that were true, you might be asking why isn’t it easier to get women to go to bed with you, right? If it were not for some elusive facts of biology, it really would be easy!

But it is not. In one study done on the University of New Mexico campus, researchers experimented with very direct sexual solicitation approaches and recorded the results when tried by men on women and then repeated the experiment when tried by women on men.

When women went up to men and said something along the lines of “Hi, I like you, would you like to have sex with me?” something like 99% of the men said yes. But when the roles were reversed, NONE of the women said yes when men asked the same question.

So there you have it, scientific proof of what we all know already: pimpin’ ain’t easy!

The reason is that women are essentially genetically programmed to be REALLY picky about who they have sex with. It is all a supply and demand equation, because women only have a limited supply of chances to reproduce, most women can’t have more than say 10 children in their lives, and the act of childbirth could kill them too, so you can add evolved FEAR into the low supply problem.

If that wasn’t enough, there are a lot of social consequences that women have to deal with when they have sex with men. They can get labeled as sluts for having sex with more than one guy, etc.

By contrast, as men we can pretty much have hundreds of children if given the chance. Our “supply” of reproduction capability is just about limitless compared to that of women. And having sex with lots of women usually gets us labeled as studs, at least with our male friends.

So you put all this together and you can understand why women are picky and almost seem like they don’t LIKE sex or WANT sex as much as men do. The main difference is that men want more partners, women want better QUALITY partners.

OK, so you understand this now, let’s really reinforce this idea that women like sex just as much as men do. This is also due to evolution; both sexes are rewarded with lots of pleasure for sex, its one way that our genes have programmed us to help pass themselves along to the next generation.

In fact, I would go so far as to say that women can get MORE pleasure out of sex than men. I mean, come on, which sex can have more fun with a showerhead or back massager?

And which sex can have multiple, prolonged orgasms, and can squirm so hard they can almost buck a full grown man off of them? These are all things I have caused and witnessed personally in my life, and as such I have no doubt that, done properly, sex causes more overall pleasure for women.

(By the way, if you haven’t had enough sexual experiences to come across a woman who had such strong orgasms that she could almost throw you off of her body, then you need to get your copy of “The Art of the Pickup»” NOW and start making up for lost time!)

OK, so back to our discussion, we have figured out that women want sex just as much as men.

So now that you have this fact in mind, how do you use it?

The answer is simple; you constantly have the attitude in mind that women want sex just as much or more than men do. And in every interaction that you have with them, you keep this in mind.

This is so simple, but it has really powerful effects. It makes the balance of power more equal in all your interactions with women. Let’s look at how this works…

I can remember when I didn’t understand how much women love and want sex, and so I used to always think that I was trying to get them to do something they didn’t want to do as much as I did. And what happens when somebody wants something more than the other person? They are willing to go to too much effort to get it.

In the case of women, it gets worse if you act like this and put in too much effort, because they then assume on some level that you don’t get much sex (otherwise why would you be trying so hard?), and by extension that there must be some reason for that, like that something is wrong with you on some level. Which makes them withhold sex from you more, which makes you try harder, which makes them withhold even more, and what you end up with is a permanent case of blue balls.

When you take the frame one step further and understand and believe that women want and love sex MORE than men do, then you can amazingly flip the roles in the above situation. Your actions indicate to her that you know she wants you more. You interpret her actions as her wanting you too much, and you pull away a bit.

She sees this and thinks on a deep level that you must have a lot of options with women, so she chases you a bit more, you retreat, she pursues harder, and you eventually succumb since that was your plan all along!

Of course, there is a lot more to learn about exactly how to reverse this role with women, and it is a big part of what you will see done in “The Art of the Pickup»DVDs.

The simple takeaway for today is that you need to understand and believe that women want sex as much or more than men do, and act like you know this when you interact with them!

Your friend who loves sex almost as much as women,

Ray Devans

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