mASF post by "spi***0@my***.com[ ? ]"
posted on: USENet: alt.seduction.fast newsgroup, October 10, 2000Man, you're fucking analysing paralising yourself.
> This is my first post...so bear with me.
>
> I am quite shy, although I have improved this aspect of my persona
> drastically in the past year. I understand the basic idea behind
female
> thinking (I understand the fact that you cannot understand it :)) but
apart
> from that I am AFC pure.
> I have had little to none sexual contact so far, not because I didnt
have
> the chances, but because there is always something holding me back. I
guess
> my excuse is that i am very picky, but I have a basic fear
of 'crash&burn'
> and am too 'nice' to risk anything.
>
> ASF has helped me to improve on certain thing such as my attitude
towards
> women etc. and the whole 'jerk' thing.
> I am 18, tall (6"3),well-built and am told good looking.
>
> The problem however is that I am really unsure about how much
attention im
> supposed to give to my target of desire. I always somehow distance
myself,
> not wanting to be obvious in showing my interest.
>
> Is this wrong?
that depends. The first thing I would suggest you would do is
experiment to find what works and what you are comfortable with. If you
would be a master of seduction you could feel your way into every
woman's demand, being the way you *are* you will succeed with some
woman, not all. This is the price to pay for being a certain way when
talking to woman, called *your style*, you will end up with woman who
tend to be similar to each other when you look back at your own
statistics. In a way it comes down to what you excpect from the whole
situation..so you have to make sure you know what it is that you want,
which is a hard question I guess.
> I always see HB's being surrounded by AFC's who are trying to win her
over
> by making wack-ass comments (Teenagers for ya) and trying to be witty
and
> trying to making her laugh. I cant get myself to run along with the
pack
> though, because to me it seems rediculous and sad to join the ranks
of the
> AFC trying to impress a HB.
well here we have excess supply and little demand. You have to find an
alternative demand that she has which is not filled. Excess supply like
this will create a bi-polar demand such as "why is there no guy who
just takes me without asking?" - very common with good looking woman.
>
> I cant get myself to stoop to that level, because even though im not
exactly
> getting any ass, it feels as if I would am supplicating, which i know
is
> bullshit but i think it nevertheless...hehe (The wonders of the human
mind).
>
> So the problem really is...i know women want guys who seem to be
above them
> and who dont need to grovel for their attention. My question is, do
women
> enjoy and respect guys who are trying hard to get them, or are they
more
> impressed with guys who show interest but do not seem too eager to
get them.
> And how do I show this interest without seeming out to get them (if
thats
> the answer to the above question)?
damn this is too complicated... All I can say is that i think woman
KNOW what you are up to. If you play hard to get, they think "why is he
playing hard to get?" (this is what I have gathered so far on this
topic) so i suggest to show your interest to some extent not as in you
wanting to have sex with her but in her as a genuine person and try
finding something you have in common. playing hard to get is for people
who call themselves "players" ..i don't know about you but that's not
what I want to be.
>
> Okay...my other question is...what does it mean if a girl looks away
and
> breaks eye contact.
> I am told (without trying to blow my own horn) that women might be
> intimidated by my looks and height or whatever.
> When i read the "Lay Guide" i read that when a woman breaks eye
contact she
> does it out of disinterest.
>
> So which answer is right?
>
> I know that it might depend on the woman and the situation, but, i
used to
> interpret the 'looking away' as a shyness or intimitadetness, am i
wrong?
>
> Does it infact mean that a woman is not interested, and that she wants
> nothing to do with you?
>
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