Girls love to meet their prince charming casually, they dream of meeting you
accidentally and by chance. That usually includes meeting you at a somewhat more private
party (a birthday or a wedding, but not a nightclub), being introduced to you through a
mutual friend, having common interests (hobbies, sports etc) and meeting you through
events organized for people practicing these interests; school, work, hobbies, friends,
and relatives being the common denominators here. That is also why trying to pick up a girl in the street or on the commuter is so much
harder to do than just "meeting her casually" - it is completely different from
what she has been dreaming of and in addition to having to make her like you the way you
present yourself, you'll have to compensate for not being able to have the silent
recommendation of having mutual friends or hobbies plus dismiss any of her doubts of you
"doing this (picking up girls) all the time", a thought which might weigh
against you even if she actually likes you and your approach. But whether you want to make the girl like you having met her casually or doing a more
direct pick-up, you'll be using the same techniques nevertheless. Opting for a casual
meeting just simplifies your task of getting her to like you and has a higher probability
of her coming to expect a LTR once things get serious (whether you like or want that to
happen is already a different subject), whereas pick-ups are tougher to pull off
successfully, but they also broaden your choice of girls far beyond those that you happen
to meet "casually" plus each failure and succcess will build your experience and
confidence respectively far more than casual meetings could ever do. In short, casual meetings are safe, pick-ups more rewarding, and the choice is yours,
but a healthy mixture of both is probably the best way to go:) |  |
Casual meetings vs pick-ups
