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“Use Your Mind To Approach And Meet Women” - February 7, 2003

Let me ask you a question:

Have you ever been in a situation where you saw a woman that you wanted to meet, but you didn't go over and talk to her? Of course... we all have.

I've started to realize that this happens to us all at different times.

The question I want to answer is "Why?"

Why is it that we don't just walk over and start talking?

What do we do to prevent ourselves from being successful?

And, more importantly, how do we overcome this self- defeating pattern of thought and action?

I have a friend who I've seen get 25 phone numbers over the course of a weekend (I saw him get every one of them)- all from women that he just met.

And I have friends that can't ask a woman for her number after they've talked to her a hundred times over a year...

What's going on here?

Well, like most answers to questions like this one, the explanation and solution is both simple and complex.

The short answer is that most of us guys use our imaginations to create horrible ideas that keep us from taking action. All we need to do is start imagining good things happening, and we'll want to go take action.

But, like I mentioned, there's a lot more to it than that.

As any dog trainer will tell you, a bad habit isn't always easy to change. If you've been doing this for awhile, then it might take more than just some positive thinking to get this handled.

I recently read a fascinating book called "Mean Genes" that was written by a couple of evolution and behavior specialists.

Inside this book, these guys point out that humans are horrible at assessing risk and return, and that they often make horrible decisions for themselves... but here's the kicker: We humans basically make the SAME mistakes most of the time... and this is most likely a GENETIC pre-disposition!

So you might see a woman that you'd like to talk to, then use your imagination to create some painfully scary ideas about how you might get rejected (which wouldn't happen in a million years) and then just walk away.

And often, these poor decisions cause us to say to ourselves "Damn it. Why do I keep doing that? I'm a such a loser..." And we beat ourselves up even more over it. As you know, these can become self-fulfilling prophesies and just make themselves bigger.

So what's the answer?

Well, first you have to learn to get out of the habit of making yourself feel bad and afraid, and into the habit of making yourself feel GOOD and optimistic.

Remember, you've been doing things the way you do them for a long time now, so it might take some practice to be able to do this in the moment every time you need to.

Here are some action steps:

1) Take some time to vividly imagine the BEST possible outcome of walking up and talking to a woman that you find attractive. Every time you see a woman that you'd like to meet, just do this. Try it for a few days. Then realize that this BEST outcome is far more likely than your WORST idea of what could happen.

2) Make a "realistic" list of the worst things that could happen, then decide exactly what you'd do if any of them actually did happen. You'll realize that you can deal with them and live through it.

3) Realize that NOT taking the risk to meet a woman is actually a BIGGER risk in the long run. If you risk not meeting her, you'll never know what might have happened, and if you let it become a habit, it will keep you from realizing your dreams in life.

Think about it... in any given situation, you have the opportunity to make a bet: Your bet is you walking over and starting a conversation.

Possible loss: Getting turned down.

Possible gain: Use your imagination.

You do the math.

This is like going to Las Vegas and having a casino say to you "OK, you can bet all day long as much as you want. If you win, you keep all the money. If you lose, you don't have to pay." Are you with me?

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You'll learn all of my best ideas and secrets for getting rid of fear, as well as exactly how to start conversations with women and what to do after that.

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I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.