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“Q&A: Approaching Women, Personals, Valentine's Day” - February 11, 2003

AHHHH... Valentine's Day approaches. Sigh.

Someone give me a hug.

I'm getting a lot of Valentine's Day questions, so I just might do a whole newsletter about it on Wednesday.

We'll see.

But for now, just enjoy this Mailbag. The comedy, great ideas, and entertainment just keep getting better.

You're NOT going to believe what's in here... this just might be the best Mailbag EVER...

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

Ok, I finally bought the video series and I must make a retraction on an earlier statement I made to you. When I sent in my suggestions earlier this year, I told you I wouldn't pay $600 to hear ANYONE talk. Well, I still wouldn't pay that much. But I might let a rich woman pay for it! I am very impressed with what you've put together. I can see differences in all areas of my life. I'm in the process of reading "The Selfish Gene" and "Feel the Fear and do it Anyway." I would buy more books but I'm in school and I'm president of my fraternity so time is very scarce right now.

The things that helped me the most in your program were the guest interviews. I LOVE how they showed an entire world that I've never even contemplated. The octopus kicked ass! I can definitely appreciate the parallels between wildlife and human behavior and instinct. I always try to view people as just another animal on the planet but this really helped put it in perspective. I've started writing down lines and scripting out scenarios in a little folder and I'm on my way to where I want to be. I'm still getting over 20+ years of programming (which obviously takes time) but I am conditioning myself to make a move when I see a woman. The initial stages are very informative if not always successful. I laughed for twenty minutes at the "You look like a bitch," line. Thankfully that wasn't me.

Thanks again for what you've done. A lot of guys would take this information and keep it for themselves. And although she doesn't know I use your products, my "fun" buddy appreciates you as well!

C.
Oklahoma

(I would sign the beer wench up for your newsletter but in my recent conversations I've found his problems extend beyond what you can help. Negative programming at its worst. He's very defiant right now so I'll try him when he's resigned.)

>>>MY COMMENTS:

What, say you?

A fraternity PRESIDENT that is EATING HIS WORDS and ALMOST saying nice things about my stuff?

It's nice to hear back from you. I do remember your email from earlier (although I'm not sure it made it into a Mailbag).

Hey, sign the Beer Wench up... my stuff works for regular guys too, dude.

Oh, and GREAT JOB writing out "little scenarios" in a folder, and thinking in advance. You may not realize this, but you're doing something that:

1) Not one guy in 1,000 does in this area of life.

2) Will DRAMATICALLY increase your success rate.

Thanks for the email. You're the man.

***QUESTION***

David,

Just finished reading your book for the 6th time and I always learn something new. I've had tremendous success with your methods; and, what's especially interesting is how they work on a gamut of different types of girls. Personally, I don't have a certain 'type' of girl. In my 3 years at college, I have dated stuckup sorority girls, artsy girls, pretentious glam queens, and club/raver girls--they all love it when I lay your tricks onto them.

Now, in "Double Your Dating^»". when dealing with bratty, stuck up types you tell us to take a "You're spoiled, and I don't blame you for it" attitude. How would you go about doing that?? Could you give me a springboard on this one? As most guys want a gorgeous girl, they will oftentimes have this attitude and we all need to know how to make it work for us.

Thanks!
DK

>>>MY COMMENTS:

lol... When you"¦ "lay my tricks" on them?

If you have to "lay tricks" on most of the women you're dating, you might want to have a little "sit down talk" with your inner child, and tell him to stop dating only women that TASTE good... but have no substance.

OK, I'm over it.

Now, to answer your question of how to deal with bratty, stuck up types...

Take a moment and THINK ABOUT how they GOT TO BE bratty and stuck up.

They act this way because it WORKS FOR THEM.

It gets them what they want.

It's a power play, and it's a good one. A bratty, stuck up HOT girl can get her way with MOST men.

You mentioned the "You're spoiled, and I don't blame you for it" attitude...

This is good.

Let's extend it a little bit...

"You're spoiled. I don't blame you for that. I would be too if I was a girl and most guys kissed my ass and acted like whipped wussies around me. But just because your head is SCREWED UP to the point where you don't have any decent social skills doesn't mean that I should tolerate your disrespectful mouth for even one second. So if you want to spend time with me, act like an adult."

This is the mindset. The attitude.

Here's how to use it:

STEP 1: Get her info quickly, and leave even more quickly.

The last thing you want to do is compete with a bunch of loser guys who are showering her with compliments, or some tough guy who wants to try to show everyone how cool he is by competing with you...

Use the 3 minute email/number technique. Be cool, direct, and focused.

STEP 2: Get together with her ALONE.

Meet for tea... whatever.

Just make sure it's only YOU and HER.

STEP 3: Make fun of her, tease her, and bust her balls.

If she has a sense of humor, enjoy it. If she doesn't hit the road... it's not worth your time (some hot women are so stuck up and uptight that they cannot deal with someone teasing them. Run.).

STEP 4: Do not address her "hotness" at all, unless it's to make fun of it.

"Wow, so what's it like being a redhead in a world that loves blondes?"

"Soooo, how did you manage to color only the very roots of your hair dark like that?"

You get the picture.

STEP 5: Find out if there's actually an INTERESTING PERSON hiding behind the bratty, stuck up persona.

If you do what I've told you, you'll be very likely to meet a more "real" side of her.

STEP 6: Once you've "met" the "real" her, NEVER ADDRESS her "bratty" side again. If she starts acting like a brat, or snooty around other people, or whatever, just ignore it completely, or ask her why she's acting 13 all of a sudden.

Try that.

Oh, and do all the other stuff you've learned from me about taking things to a "physical" level... because once you've gotten past the bratty persona, you've turned everything around, and you should now lead.

***SUCESS STORY***

Hi David,

I was married since my early twenties and my wife gave me the boot a like a year ago. At first I was really down but around the same time I discovered your ebook. Figuring I didn't have much to lose (plus a moneyback guarantee) I gave it a shot. Wow! The material is fantastic. Things I should have learned more than 20 years ago. (I am now 39.) | Better late than never. Since I began using your techniques, my interactions with women have been seriously altered. I started to get the feel of things via online chatrooms, etc. The response was tremendous. I soon moved to personal ads, as I am a busy guy and don't have the time for the bar scene. I have been dating one woman (among others) who was among the first I used your techniques with. A recent interaction went something like this: I had been busting her balls all day, mixing cocky with funny pretty well. So we come inside, she pushes me down in my computer desk chair, and "goes down". After a couple of minutes, I reach for my computer mouse and say "While you are doing that, do you mind if I check my e-mail?" Now the old wuss me would never had said anything like that. It is completely illogical, right? Wrong. She jumped back for a moment but I quickly soothed the sting with a little "cocky and funny" and within 60 seconds she was back at it. And you know what else? The sex isn't even the best part. I have fun, fantastic dates and even guys sort of defer to me because I carry myself so much better. And the caliber of women I meet is great, and getting better. (I went out with a Russian chick recently, more on that another time...) I actually live a more rewarding, fulfilling life.

But the major point I want to make is that although I was a married wuss for more than 15 years, even a middle-aged dog can learn new tricks. Since I have been using your techniques, I have gotten laid more in one weekend than I did in some years that I was married. I swear I am not making this up. I also have multiple dating partners lined up, and I am able to be selective about who I go out with, instead of just settling for what I used to think was all that I could get. Men really are our own worst enemies with the wuss mindset. By the way, I have already purchased the Advanced CD series and use it like an encyclopedia. I refer to it constantly to refresh my memory and pick out an idea or two to use right before a date. I listen to a CD while I lounge in the recliner, headphones on, lights off, NO DISTRACTIONS. I want to listen for comprehension. And the techniques really do work with all women, young or old. I could go on and on.

You Rock,
DB

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I'm honored.

Welcome back, man.

That was great... thanks for the email.

Of all the things that guys tell me they like about these newsletters, the Success Stories are the MOST requested, and most enjoyed.

Love it!

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

Somehow I began getting your emails, but I love them. I too have worked on my technique for years and did pretty well. Worked my way up the ladder, so to speak. SO much so that I ended up marrying a goddess, an 8.5 to 9.0 on the looks scale, she loves to work out, has a master degree and is a 8.0 in personality. I busted on her so much that she had to up her game just to keep up. You know she worked on trying to set me up with little games. Trying to seduce me into sex on her conditions, things like that. Now, I still cannot keep her hands off me after 5 years except now things are on my terms.. Cool huh. Anyway, the problem is, I think I am losing my MOJO man. Recently I have found myself becoming increasingly more comfortable and... well married. Lately, I am finding myself becoming a serious puss...I mean I cannot even believe half of the sh** that I am letting slide. This may be normal, but I refuse to let it happen. You know as well as I that getting a woman and keeping her interested are two entirely different things.... I still need to keep her guessing to keep her with me.... I am not a fool to think that other men would not willingly go after a hot married woman.....Hell 5 years ago, I would have.

Anyway, don't get me wrong, I totally dig my wife and want no other women, but in normal course of life I think I have lost my touch. I can barely get smiles out of the Coffee girl anymore. I do not necessarily need to build other "physical" relationships, but I do need to keep the women around me on their toes and interested. Does your book series address this kind of development? As I get older and even more married, I cannot, will not lose my touch with the ladies or the my wife....... Any advice......

M.
Missouri

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I'm including your email because I want to make an example of you (hope you don't mind).

You are at a point that MANY guys find themselves at, even AFTER learning how to be really successful with women. And it's a tough place.

It's a big hazard. A huge pitfall.

HINT: Predictability = Bad Things.

Watch out, if you don't get back on your game soon, and get your act together, you're going to be writing in with the "I don't know what happened, my wife started acting more and more controlling, until she finally just left and took everything... and the worst part is that she says that it was ME that changed."

No, my book doesn't address this kind of development.

My book is called "Double Your Dating^»", not "Half Your Stupidity".

But other than that, it does contain some ideas that you would find VERY useful.

Hurry.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

I'll do my best to keep this question and comment short. There is sooo much material in your book, it's going to take me a few times of reading it to contemplate ALL of the information inside. Plus I still have to get Helitzer's book on comedy writing secrets and start concentrating on NOT laughing at my own jokes. I love what you've done in writing this book. Gold, Dave, GOLD. ANYWAY, a couple of things. You mentioned that what's his face, after 30 years of research, still didn't know what women want. I believe I have the answer. They don't know what they want. Think about how many situations you've seen a woman have a complete change of heart on pretty much anything; from what to wear to what to eat to where to work. How will men ever know if a woman has absolutely no idea? What are we to do. I tell you what we are to do - BUY YOUR BOOK. A side note. You mentioned "body language^»" and "confidence" as two of the MANY qualities (I'm still reading back over these) which attract women. I didn't notice until my chiropractor made me conscious of it, but my slouching (which I never noticed until I had to get my back worked on) was SERIOUSLY making a bad impression. After I started just walking straighter, I noticed a MUCH different reaction, pretty much anywhere I went. Ok. I've babbled long enough time for my question. I recently (very recently) started seeing one particular girl, and as we all know Valentine's day is on the way. I know what you're thinking (I think). Don't buy her anything this early, right? Doing so would insinuate neediness and insecurity. So I was thinking of sending her that "I was thinking of you and wrote you this e-mail", e-mail. What do you think? I ask because MANY girls take Valentines day a little more seriously than men do. I'm sure I'll figure something out, but your comments would be greatly appreciated.

Ok, I've gone on too long.

~Man in Montana

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, first of all, your comment about POSTURE is SOOOO important.

This is the FIRST thing others notice about you, because it can be seen clearly from far enough away that literally NONE of your other features are clear.

Hold you chest UP, head high, shoulders back a bit and relaxed. This is UNBELIEVABLY important.

Now to answer your VDay question...

Why would you do something LAME and BORING like sending an email that says "I was thinking of you and wrote this email"?

If you email her, send her a HUGE PICTURE of a MILLION roses... and say "I know, I know. I'm a crazy romantic. I know you always wanted 1,000 roses... well, this is as close as you're ever going to get. I'm madly in love with you, and I want to fly to Vegas TONIGHT and get married by Elvis. I hope they have a drive through divorce place too, because I'm going to take half of your money. Kisses."

Just don't be BORING, OK?

***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***

Hey!

I am a 48 yr. old woman who has recently returned to the dating game after a very long hiatus. I accidentally found your dating tips and decided to keep getting the newsletters even after I realized they were for men. I wanted to see what you are telling them.

Congratulations! As far as I am concerned, you are bang on with your advice (no pun intended!)! Wussy guys are really tiresome. C&F guys add a lot of sparkle to the game and even older women will respond! And the C&F stuff works right back at you! Guys like that kind of flirtation too. I have a young, extremely shy friend who really needed some help, so I gave him your newsletter address. I hope one day he writes you with his success.

Keep up the good work! Think how much more fun the world would be if everyone learned how to relate to each other in this manner!

L.A. in Canada

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeahhhhh, babyyyyyy!

Wussy guys really are tiresome, aren't they?

I'm on a personal mission to BITCH SLAP THE WUSS out of all men.

I'd better have a few drinks, because this is probably going to hurt my hand a lot more than I realize.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

Your info is smarter and works quicker than any other similar product available, and your service too is unrivalled. It's a shame you can't print details to prove authenticity of these messages. It all makes perfect sense though, and results are guaranteed - really. How many 'results' you want is entirely up to you. A question though, regarding the up-coming Valentine's Day. Send or not to send? Some discussion would be appreciated.

Thanks again.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Before I answer the "to send or not to send" question...

I'm glad you brought up the "authenticity" of all these messages issue.

As I've mentioned before, EVERY SINGLE LETTER that I print in EVERY SINGLE NEWSLETTER that I have ever sent out is REAL.

In other words, I have NEVER made any of them up, and I rarely even edit them (and when I do, it's usually to fix typos or spelling errors, although even that is rare).

You know what the best part is?

Out of the literally thousands of emails I get, almost all of them are positive success stories, or good questions from guys in the real world.

Sure, once in awhile I get a "your stuff sucks" email.

But it's usually something that says "I tried being Cocky & Funny with a girl, and she hated it and never called me back. Your stuff doesn't work!"

In other words, the few negative comments I do get are almost all from guys who didn't get it, and got shot down once or twice.

Am I perfect? Hell no.

Are all of these letters real? Hell yes.

Now, to send or not to send...

What are you sending?

If you want to send a card, try this:

Go down to the drugstore, and buy one of those huge-ass helium balloons that's shaped like a heart.

Oh, and buy a card, too.

Then, go down to Mail Boxes, Etc. and get a HUGE BOX that will hold the balloon.

Insert balloon.

On card, write:

"I knew you'd be thinking about me all day on Valentine's day, so I wanted to give you something to distract you."

Insert card.

Place in the mail to her.

Send me money for thinking of that KILLER idea. (The address is on my website)

***QUESTION***

Dave, I've recently been trying the C&F routine in online ads. I told one chick that using her drivers license pic in her ad was a nice touch. She replied back saying "it's a**holes like you that have made me decide to pull my ad" and she did pull it, I checked. Another chick, I told her she looked like she worked for psychic hotline cuz she kinda looked like a fortune-teller. She IM'd me and asked me what I meant and I explained it to her, then busted on her for stalking me because she found me so irresistible. She replied "you shouldn't brag. It's unbecoming" and she ended the conversation shortly thereafter. My question is, am I hitting on any taboos with this C&F or were these just uptight women? When you say be funny do you mean what I think is funny or what we both will find funny because it seems to me the funniest things are usually at someone's expense who doesn't find it so funny!

G.B Las Vegas NV

>>>MY COMMENTS:

LOL...! (Laughing out loud!)

Well, you got me cracking up over here.

"...using your driver's license pic in her ad was a nice touch..."?

"...you look like you work for the psychic hotline..."?

LOL!

And then you ask me "When you say be funny do you mean what I think is funny or what both will find funny..."?!

You're killing me over here. Stop it!

Yea, try leaning a little more toward jokes that SHE will also find funny. Good idea.

I think you've invented a new technique.

I'm going to name it "Cocky And Dumb Ass".

You know, the REALLY funny part is that these two things you've said would be GREAT to use in slightly different contexts...

For instance, if you're online chatting with a woman, and you're having fun teasing her... and she's into you... and she sends you some modeling picture of herself... THAT'S the place to say "What's with the driver's license pic?"

Or "You look like that girl in the Psychic Hotline commercials. Are you famous? I always wanted to date a famous fake psychic girl that makes $100 a day for extra work in Psychic Hotline commercials."

lol...

You don't need to try so hard right from the beginning.

Tips for personals:

-Try to get there first. Keep your eye on them every day, so you are one of the first 10 people to send her a message.

-Be "Normal & Funny" to begin with... while you're building your Cocky & Funny skills. Say something like:

"Well, I was looking at these personals, and I was guessing that this was going to be a bunch of lonely, desperate women...

Something tells me that you've already gotten about 457 emails from married guys who are 107 years old that want to know if you're interested in a "massage" or something equally tempting.

If you're used to that, then I might be a little bit too normal and intelligent for you, but hey, it's worth the risk...

Email me back. Maybe we could get together sometime for a cup of tea and some interesting conversation. If not, good luck with the 107 year olds."

-Play the numbers. There are a BAZILLION personal ads out there, and you can have fun testing all kinds of things. Don't take it too seriously, and enjoy yourself.

-Get on the phone, and in person as soon as you can. If you don't, you'll be forgotten VERY quickly. Women often get as many as 100 responses per DAY (or more), and men start to all look the same after a short while.

Go get'em Tiger.

***COMMENT***

Dear David,

Thank you for all the emails.

To all you guys out there that are reading these E-mails do not just think of ordering the E-book BUY IT NOW! - the longer you wait the more you are walking in the dark. With woman what ever you think it is totally the opposite. Buy the book now! only after you read Davids stuff you will understand. I am saying this because of my personal experience and because a few years ago I got divorced (because I was a wussie) and & I have personally done major research on this subject I read John Grays and at least 40 books on this topic, all the books tell you how to lick up to women and all that does not work. All it does it portray you as weak. Guys every man when he meets a woman thinks that this woman is different the only way a woman will be different is when you are different! So don't just sit there Buy the E-book and I Guarantee you that you will never ever regret it.

J - Australia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

So all those other books out there tell men to "lick up" to women, huh?

Never tried that one... but sounds interesting.

I probably shouldn't be making fun of your English... you'd having a DAMN good time if you every heard me try to speak YOUR language (because I don't know any others).

Yea, I've probably read something like 100 books on this subject, and they all suck.

The ONE thing I did differently from all those other authors out there was to finally figure out that I needed to LEARN FROM THE EXPERTS.

My big personal breakthroughs and successes came when I made friends with a few guys who:

1) Had figured out how to be successful with women on their own... they were "naturals" at it.

2) Didn't need any fancy techniques or book knowledge to be successful. They "got it".

I paid very careful attention to what they said and did, and after awhile, I started to get it myself.

Then I WAS THE ONE who wrote the book!

lol...

You'll notice that even in my Advanced Series I include five different interviews with guys I know who are successful with women.

At my last seminar in Los Angeles a few weeks ago, I had no less than 5 guys come up and share on stage and teach their personal methods.

I know it's amazingly stupid, but the reason why this stuff works is because IT ACTUALLY WORKS.

It's not the imaginary fantasies of some guy with a degree and no game. (Not to put down others, but I mean, go check out some dating and relationship books in the bookstore. Cummon.)

Thanks for your email. I'm with you on this stuff.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I've been getting your newsletters for some time now, and they are all amazing. They have helped me so much, that I felt compelled to pass on things that I've found to work well, in hopes that it may help my brothers in arms. As well as to hear your comments on them and maybe gain even more insight...I'm hooked on this stuff, what can I say. So on to my story.

I signed up for a free 1 week trial on one of these online dating^» sites...I found 10 ads that sounded promising, the pictures looked good, and the women sounded like they had something going on. My response to all ten was exactly the same, and it was as follows

"Ok...so you sound normal enough...now tell me what's really wrong with you. ; )"

Out of the 10 I sent, I received 7 back saying it was the funniest most original response they had received. Out of the 7, I had to whittle it down to the top 5 candidates, and gotten personal emails and numbers. I've made dates with 2 so far and been out on one already. She turned out to be sharp in mind and body, but using what I've learned from you, I was prepared and never backed down once. kept up the C&F all night and she laughed for about 5 hours straight. Towards the end of the night I asked her how she thought everything was going (just to gauge what was going on inside her head, and not caring what the response would be) She said..."I don't usually go out with guys who are overweight" (which I am) " but just from your personality, I knew I had to meet you". She went on to say that she wasn't really attracted to me physically, and I never wavered just plowed ahead with "Well I don't usually go out with a woman who has huge ears". She commenced asking the bartender and several other patrons if she had big ears. They of course fed into the fact that she was hot and knew it and all wussed out and told her they looked fine. But I just kept busting her balls. Needless to say she was kissing me at the bar by the end of the night, and in the parking lot afterwards. She even invited me back to her place that night, but I declined saying I wasn't that easy. And all this from a woman who wasn't "physically attracted to me". Hope this helps someone somewhere, and keep up the good work Dave.

W.
in VA.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You are a god of generosity for sharing that amazing, simple wisdom with us mortals.

Every single one of the TENS OF THOUSANDS of men that are reading this right now are saying to themselves:

1) "If I would have figured that out, I would NEVER have written in and shared it"

AND...

2) "I'm going to go sign up for a one week trial of a dating sight as SOON AS I'M FINISHED READING THIS NEWSLETTER and cut and paste that exact same line... and ruin it for everyone!"

Ah, such is life.

Hat's off to you, and thanks for sharing. I wish more guys would step up and share great ideas like this.

***QUESTION***

Question

Hey there, Dave Man,

I have Gone all the way through your CD pack and Have read your E-book numerous times. I was convinced that I needed the cds after the book. Anyways here's my question. I have been working on everything that you say to practice on I make notes all the time I have read many of the books that you recommend as well. Everything has been working wonders for me the last few months. I actually get dates now LOL. Anyways I want to become a lot more proficient in the humor aspect. I have gotten better since listening and readin your series, as well as reading Comedy writing secrets, but I want to have more avenues. If you could tell me of more books, or more anything that you could recommend for me as well as others I would appreciate it. To make sure it stays funny and cocky, but not arrogant.

Thanks,
D.J Washington

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice!

I love a guy who wants to be the best.

That didn't sound right.

I mean, I really get a special feeling in my happy place when I get an email from a guy like you.

That's not it, either.

OK, what I REALLY mean is"¦ NICE!

The answer for you is not MORE INFORMATION.

The answer for you is sitting down with a notebook and a couple of hours to yourself, and:

1) Making a list of the top 5 situations where you'd like to have some KILLER Cocky & Funny material at-the- ready.

2) Writing out 10 GREAT lines for each situation.

3) Choosing only the very best of the best... and mentally rehearsing them until they're TIGHT.

EXAMPLE:

In line at the coffee shop, talking to the cashier.

She says "What can I get for you?"

I answer:

1) "The usual" with a straight face.

2) "Whatever YOU'RE having" with a sly smile.

3) "What, you don't have it ready for me already?" with a fake upset look on my face.

4) etc., etc., etc...

Let's say you chose "The usual" as your favorite.

Now what?

Now imagine what would happen.

She's going to say "Oh, I'm sorry, I don't remember what you usually order..."

So you respond with:

1) "Oh, no. This relationship ISN'T working out for me."

2) "Stop teasing me."

3) "Don't be sorry, just get it for me."

4) etc., etc., etc....

Let's say you choose "Oh, no. This relationship ISN'T working out for me."

I think you see where I'm going with this.

Finally, close your eyes, and IMAGINE every single step in your mind. Imagine how it's going to go. Imagine the EXACT timing of everything, how you're going to respond, how you're NOT going to laugh when she smiles, etc.

MENTALLY REHEARSE the whole thing... over and over.

You don't need MORE. You need BETTER, and SHARPER.

***QUESTION***

David,

Your book has really helped me. It has been slow, painfully so at times, but when I look at where I am now compared to where I was before I got you ebook, it makes it all worth while. I can't believe how easily I can get phone numbers and emails. Tonight for instance, I was waiting to meet a girl at a coffee shop and got stood up (actually, the jury's still out on whether or not she stood me up or just couldn't find the place). No matter though, because while I was waiting I noticed a cute little blonde number doing her homework in the corner. Since my original date was a no show I walked over to her and introduced myself. I said that I'd noticed her from where I was, and wanted to meet her. I no longer have constant access to the ebook because I got it for PC but have recently switched over to a Mac, so I have no idea how the 3 minute number routine is supposed to go, but I winged it. She said she was a student and had just started studying since she got fired from Gadzooks. I made an attempt at cocky/funny by saying it takes a special kind of girl to get fired from Gadzooks. As soon as she responded I said I had to go, but that I'd really like to talk to her again sometime and did she have email. I'll have to set something up her with her later this week.

My question is this: I've been getting numbers/emails pretty easily now, but now I have problems with the dates! This is the first time a girl has flaked on me so far, but even when they show up my cocky/funny routine stalls. I think maybe I'm trying to hard. Anyway, what can I do to keep the good vibes flowing and the girls laughing at those first coffee shop meetings?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

1) Email and my assistant will send you another version of the eBook that will work on your Mac. We're cool like that. Include your full name, date ordered (as close as you can), email you used, and order number (if you have it). You need to read it again.

2) CHILL OUT, man.

You're doing fine.

Read the advice I just gave to the guy above... you need to do this EXACT thing yourself.

Remember, Cocky & Funny is just one tool in your bag.

It's not everything.

For now, just work on being NOT A DUMB ASS.

When you read Double Your Dating^» again, you'll find a BUNCH of great ideas for conversation. Just work on incorporating one new idea each time you meet a woman.

Soon, you'll have all kinds of fun things to talk about, and it will all be natural for you.

***QUESTION***

David,

Hey there! First off your ebook and newsletter are awesome. They have helped me start to understand attraction and put me at ease around women. I used to be super shy but a lot of this i think stemmed from me feeling powerless around women. Anyways i take it that this stuff takes a while to learn... i've already seen results -- my dating has gone from zero to every now and then which is great. Further more i now feel that if i am interested in a girl i can actually DO something about it which is very important. Anyways onto my question. I must say that i have built up quite a bit of frustration over the years when almost every girl i'm interested in seems to be dating someone or already or have a boyfriend. So now i pretty much see it as an important question to ask a girl straight up. "Do you have a boyfriend?" "are you married?" "are you seeing someone?" "have you squeezed out any brats yet?" -- stuff like this... of course i'm thinking add a humour spin on it would probably be the best. Anyways i ask this question cause i really don't want to waste my time and hopes on a girl whos already taken. Do you think it is a bad idea to ask this question?? Does it reflect badly upon me?

Thanks, sick of boyfriends.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

To begin with, STOP CARING WHAT WOMEN THINK OF YOU.

Being overly self-conscious will screw up your composure, which will screw up EVERYTHING.

Next, try my personal super-secret line for finding out if a woman has a boyfriend.

Here it comes. Hold on...

"Are you single?"

I know, you can stop clapping now.

Think about this for a minute.

Here's what most guys do...

They ask stupid questions like:

"Um, I'll bet you have a boyfriend, RIGHT?"

...or...

"Can I take you out sometime?"

BLEH!

I'll sometimes ask a woman "Are you single" as the VERY FIRST THING when starting a conversation.

Here's how and why it works...

You look directly at her... right into her eyes... with a look that telegraphs the message that you are totally in control of yourself and everything around you, and you ask in an almost suspicious tone of voice that says:

"You probably have a loser boyfriend that you're bored with, in which case I'm not going to want to talk to you... but I have to ask, just in case you're single... in which case I might need to take a few minutes and find out if you're the kind of woman I'd be interested in getting to know better."

It's ALL in the body language^» and voice tone.

Now if you ask "Are you single?"

...and she PAUSES... just say:

"I'll take that as a yes" and keep going. She'll let you know if she's not. And she'll love your Cocky joke in any case.

If she says "No, I'm not" just say "good night" and walk away.

Think that one through a couple of times.

Imagine doing it exactly as I describe here.

Then try it.

You'll like it.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I've been reading your newsletters for about a year and I bought your ebook about 8 months ago. I'm so much more comfortable talking to women. I'm much more confident not only with women but with every aspect of my life. I seem like a different person. Your an absolute genius!

I was thinking about buying your advanced series. I wanted to know what the benefits of getting the dvd over the cd. I know how important body language^» is and that's something that I need to get a handle on. Are there a lot of body language^» examples that I would see on the dvd?

SW,
Ft. Lauderdale, FL, USA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I spent a LOT more time putting together the DVD version of this program than the CD version.

The video is all digitally filmed and edited, and it looks very professional.

The DVD is a totally different experience.

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that the value of just being able to see the BODY LANGUAGE^» and gestures that my guest speakers use (and that I use) is worth more than the price of the entire program.

Really.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Check this out! This just shows you how a little C&F without hesitation when the opportunity presents itself works like a charm. I was at a local restaurant and bar that fills up with allot of guys because of cheap beer on Thursdays. Chicks have the ratios on their sides and are most of the time pretty selective. I got a crazy new cell phone that swivels to open it and looks like a James Bond prop. I was talking on the phone when this 9 of a chick comments on the phone "Lemme see!". My response was... (jokingly)SSSSSSHHHHHH! I'm on the phone, hang on I'll show you in a second. And then smirked and turned away. She kept tugging on my shirt tail. Obviously loud enough for her to hear, I tell my buddy I'm on the phone with, "I gotta go, this Hussy won't leave me alone." When I got off the phone I asked her name. S. S, what is your phone number...she gave it to me and I stored it. Showed her and said look it saves your number. "All phones do that" S replies. Yeah, but mine is magic. When I call you after 2 AM you're supposed to come to my house, like a booty call. Told her I need to get back to my friends. Turned and walked away. I could see that she couldn't keep her eyes off me all night. She watched me have fun and flirt all night. She even saw me leave the bar with another girl. Called her around 2:30, said "Told her to grab a pen and I'll give her directions." Lets just say thank you Motorola and David. Buy the book now guys.

Sleepless in Florida

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You're a dog's dog.

A real sensitive guy.

And I like the little shameless plug for my book at the end. Hey, you said it, not me.

To most guys, your story sounds like B.S.

And you know, I have to say that if I hadn't seen things like this happen with my own two eyes OVER AND OVER AND OVER again, I would think it was B.S. too.

Thanks for the email...

***QUESTION***

Hey David,

I can't begin to tell you how grateful I am. Just to set the record straight, I'm in my early 40s, short (5' 7"), slightly overweight, and have been out of work for a while. Before getting your series, I had had one date in five years... That's right: Just one! Now, I have to juggle a bunch of dates from 21 to 41 years old at various levels of connection, from casual dating to wild, uninhibited sex. You're the man!

Here's my dilemma: At the moment, there are four women I am really connecting with and Valentine's Day is coming up. Although I'd love to invite all four over to my place for a wild party, it ain't gonna happen. The women know that I'm not in an exclusive relationship with any of them, but I still need to figure out how to deal with them this Feb 14.

Any ideas?

OHD
Rosamond, CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yea, I have an idea.

Shut your pie hole!

No one likes you... men hate you, AND women hate you.

I, of course, love you.

Now, back to your question.

Seriously, if I were you, I'd leave town.

Really.

No kidding.

"Rosamond, CA" sounds LAME anyway, so drive somewhere cool for the day, and go out to a hip bar that's FULL of single women who have no man to love them... and use some of those great skills you have to make a lonely woman happy.

Cummon, it was the obvious answer, wasn't it?

This is THE elegant move that will only make you more desirable. And it will give you the opportunity to "reschedule" four totally separate evenings with the four women you're "really connecting with", and allow them to plan a wonderful "Valentine" evening for you's two (as Joe Pesci would say).

By the way, I really found it entertaining to hear that you're "juggling a bunch of dates"... "from 21 to 41 years old"..."at various levels of connection"...

[and here's my favorite part, where you describe those "various levels"... of "CONNECTION"...]

"...from casual dating to wild, uninhibited sex..."

Wow, man. You've got all the bases between casual dating and wild, uninhibited sex covered, huh?

Deep, man. Deep.

But then again, what should I expect from a guy who had one date in five years... (I'd make fun of your age, height, weight, and joblessness, but as you've already figured out, these things only matter if you don't have any GAME).

Rock on!

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

My cousin recently went out and purchased your Advanced Series. His transition was astounding! He went from staying home on the weekend to being around girls every single day. He's been pushing me to get the Series and I finally decided I will because of a recent mishap. I was at the gym and saw a 9. Basically, after an hour I worked up the courage to go and talk to her. I had everything planned out, but everything completely screwed up. For some reason, I was so nervous, I stuttered so much, couldn't get the right words out, and in the end just scared her off. She kept asking me why I wanted her info, but I couldn't get the words out. So I just said never mind, and went away.

Is there anyway you can tell me beforehand on how to control such unwanted body language^». I know she could easily tell that I was nervous, so how can I hide that and portray at least a slight degree of confidence?

V.X. from Spokane

>>>MY COMMENTS:

How can you HIDE the fact that you're nervous, and "portray" at least a "slight degree" of confidence?

I hate to say this, but you need my Advanced Program a lot more than you know.

Look, HIDING things isn't the answer here.

Being READY is the answer.

"Portraying" a "slight degree" of confidence isn't the answer.

Getting RID of your INSECURITIES is the answer.

Now, I just gave you the answers to your questions.

I can hear you saying "How? How?" from here...

If you come to me and say "My car won't start, and I keep trying to get it to start... is there a better way to turn the key or press the gas pedal down so it will start?" I'm going to assume that you don't know much about cars.

THE WAY you're asking me these questions tells me that we're dealing with DEEPER ISSUES than the ones you THINK you're dealing with.

If ONLY it were as simple as finding out how to learn a quick way to hide nervousness and portray a slight degree of confidence... and then roll up to every "9" in the GYM and score her digits... lol.

Hell, if it was that easy, everyone would know the answer, and you wouldn't have to ask me!

I think I've beaten the dead horse with reckless abandon... so maybe I should start talking about how to solve your problem.

Oh, yea... my Advanced Series.

Here's my promise to you. It's simple:

Get my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program.

Listen to the 12+ hours of me teaching LIVE.

Read along with the 100 page workbook.

When you have finished with the LAST DISC, if you aren't saying to yourself "This is the best investment I've ever made", send it back for a refund.

Your email started out with this:

"My cousin recently went out and purchased your Advanced Series. His transition was astounding! He went from staying home on the weekend to being around girls every single day."

What, do you want me to call your mom and have her tell you to get it?

It's here, go get it:

[products info link]

And if, for some CRAZY reason you haven't read Double Your Dating^» yet, download that FIRST, and read it while the Advanced Series is in the mail. Same guarantee. It's here:

[ebook download link]

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

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