“Q&A: Approaching Women, Getting Emails And Numbers” - October 14, 2003

***SUCCESS STORY***

Hi Dave,

You're a guru, more power to you, I've been married 20 yrs then divorced and decided it was time to rejoin the race, I always got on well with our married friends because I am a genuinely nice guy and so started trying to meet women using this "technique" and mate didn't my ego cop a kicking, I crawled back into my shell started looking for help and found your book, the results in my opinion at least have been unbelievable, there is a woman at work [she is a temp. and works in various depts. at odd times so technically I'M not breaking one of the rules], she is good looking, classy and aloof, a number of others have tried and failed, I had met her about 8 months previously when i was in nice guy mode and she didn't remember me at all. This time after reading your book I bowled straight into her office [she was back on holiday relief] with the attitude of "if nothing else this will be good practice" and started to wind her up about everything I could think of, eg. her tinted hair and flawless make up - was this a mask so men of the world like me didn't intimidate her; her winter tan - was there any other artificial things I should know about etc. etc. Not very good stuff I'll be the first to admit, but, worked like a charm, after a week of this SHE gave me her phone no. we have got together since and she is a great woman, we have a ball together, now when I chat-up women I feel in control and I tell them to back off and slow down which they seem to like.

Thanks again,

D.
Australia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ahhh, you get it. Isn't it amazing to see how well the "untouchable" women respond when you bust on them, give them a hard time, and tell them to slow down? Love it.

***QUESTION***

Dave,
How would you go about approaching women at health clubs/gyms? I'm assuming that if they never look your way, they're not worth the time... am I correct with this assumption?

M.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

If a woman doesn't look at you it doesn't mean that she's "not worth the time"...

In fact, the only way you can find out whether a woman is "worth the time" is to INVEST a little TIME and talk to her.

Remember, it only takes a couple of minutes to get an email address and number.

***QUESTION***

Hey - I've read your newsletter, and I think that what you say is feasible. My only question is, one time I walked up to a chick at a gym, told her she was looking fine, got the number, asked her out, and she seemed delighted that she was going to go out. Only problem: On the day that we were supposed to go out, I couldn't get a hold of her, and when I could she had no intention of going anywhere. She never returned my calls, but yet she acted as though she liked me... so what do you think is going on? Also, I'm 6'2 215 lbs, biracial, and girls have call me attractive, but lately I've been having a "famine" of chicks. Any little bit of advice would be much appreciated.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

My guess is that you're acting a little bit needy, and this is driving the babes away.

A question that I've been asking a lot lately is:

"How do you make someone want something?"

One way is to give them a little tiny taste, then lean back and let them think about how good it was.

You might want to consider calling a little less, and being more laid back.

You say "She never returned my calls...". How many times did you call her?

It only takes 5 minutes to set a date up, and that's about all the time you should talk before meeting up with her again.

Too many guys make the mistake of calling all the time and ruining their chances because they are making themselves seem too available and too needy.

Kick back, and be cool.

***QUESTION***

Hey, it's undeniable that the cocky+funny technique that you describe works wonders in attracting women. When I use it, I can FEEL the attraction growing. However, different kinds of women seem to have different reactions to this. Many go goo goo gaa gaa over me and are just intrigued with my wit and make it obvious that they've fallen for me. However, there is a certain type of girl who can dish the cocky+funny stuff back with a wit of her own... i believe the word is sassy. and this This happens to be the type of girl I'm attracted to... when using the cocky + funny technique on a sassy girl, it seems that the more I bust her balls, the more she busts mine, which leads to a sibling-rivalry type deal where theres too much pride to admit or show true feelings of attraction. It seems that when you're involved in this cocky and funny war, the attraction is there, but these types of girls are just so strong that it's hard to push it over the edge to the point where they finally succumb... what do you think the best response to this is? I know that it's not a good idea to be the first one to give in and show your feelings, but what do you do if she's too stubborn to do so? I've been thinking that in these types of situations I should just try to get physical once the attraction is there, but is that the right thing to do? Isn't making a move on her showing my feelings and giving up power my in a way by admitting i DO want her, or does it show so much confidence that it doesn't matter? If I persist in my cocky and funny attitude, will any girl, no matter how stubborn and sassy, get to the point where she can't take it anymore and just jump me? Doesn't seem like it so far... so some answers would be great. I know lots of women on the attraction level now, but haven't really got physical with any of them, so I realize that getting to the physical stage is my biggest problem. Thanks for all your help, I think what you're doing and your ideas are great.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You have what I like to call a "high quality problem."

Yes, once in awhile you'll meet a sharp woman that will keep you on your toes...

And when you do, you'll often be very attracted to her because she's so sharp.

One good thing to do is make fun of the jokes that she's making, and accuse her of stealing your material.

Say "Can't you think of anything funny to say?" etc.

Act like your jokes are funny, but hers aren't.

And, of course, advance physically. You need to be the one to do it. And if you use my concept of "Bridges" that I talk about in my eBook and bonus booklets, then things will move along almost automatically.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

You already know you're the man, your techniques separate me from the rest. I went out and found the perfect girl, we have been dating for about 3 months. Her birthday is coming up and i want to get her something, but can't seem to think "what would David do in this situation?" I know what not to get her, but can you give me any good general recommendations for a gift? ...My second question is Why do you only call it 'double your dating^»'?... I more than doubled my dating...and other things.

thanks.

Dk from CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I call it "Double Your Dating^»" because I want guys to feel like they got a great deal when they triple and quadruple their dating!

As for your gal, my specialty is the gettin', not the keepin'.

But if it were me, I'd make her B-day special... do three or four things. Flowers, nice dinner, massage, etc. all in one evening.

Then don't do it again for quite awhile.

Focus all of your attention on one evening. She'll be thrilled, and think about it every day from then on.

Most guys over-do it, and do too much too often. This prevents anything from ever being special. Think about it.

***QUESTION***

David . i love your book, first off, to any guy that hasn't bought it your missing out, this book landed me the hottest girl at my university, anyway im gonna keep this short. dave, i used your book , it landed me a hot ass chick , ive been dating her for 2 months and recently we decided that we are boyfriend&girlfriend but i feel like i have been a wuss lately, how do i keep a girlfriend on check and show her that im in control of this relationship

-M. from cali

(please help)

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, to start with, STOP ACTING LIKE A WUSSY!

Lean back, call a little less often, see her a little less often, etc.

You need to do the things that worked in the first place for you!

Your situation is common. A lot of guys learn this material, meet a nice girl, then proceed to act like a total Wuss, only to lose the girl of their dreams.

Don't change what worked! Stick with it.

And for gosh sakes, don't act like a GIRLY-MAN!

***QUESTION***

I just got your news latter for the first time - today I was in a coffee shop (it's next to a gym and always has a lot of hot women in it.) there was a drop dead gorgeous lady in front of me ordering coffee. Normally I would of got my coffee and sat down with my buddy and checked her out from afar, well after reading your news letter I decided to give your advice a try. She sat down and got this little black telephone book out and made a call on her cell phone. When she was done, I walked over and said, "would you like my number for your little black book", she looked up at me with a big smile and said, "how sweet" (this was going better than I ever imagined) so what did I do next, NOTHING... that's right, nothing. I was so suppressed at her response I didn't know what to say, so I smiled and ordered my coffee. Well I regained my composure, and as I was putting the creamer in my coffee she waked by heading for the door, so with a big smile I said, "your not leaving are you" she said, "no I'm just going outside to sit down" ... OK, I have another chance, so what did I do, walked out the door, smiled, gave her a little wave, she waved back, and I left... pathetic I know. I was sure if I started a full-on conversation with her I would run out of wit and charm so I chickened out, any advice you can give a new disciple?

CF, Newport Beach CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Niiiiiiiice.

You obviously need to read my book "Double Your Dating."

Just go to:

[ebook download link]

...right now and get it.

You'll learn how to get a woman's email address and number within a few minutes of meeting her. You're doing great, and now it's time for you to go to the next level.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I've got a story even you're not gonna believe. I was chilling in the mall with a couple of my homeboys when this totally fine chick walked by. I dropped $50 and bet my friends I'd get her number in under 2 minutes. They took the bet and started the time. Exactly 1 minute and 13 seconds later I was $100 dollars richer. And like they say in those late night infomercials, there's more. I was working in a darkroom developing some pics when I get a knock at the door. I open it up and I think you can figure the rest. I didn't even realize she was in my class. Needless to say, after talking for about 15 or 20 minutes, things got a bit x-rated. All I have to say is DAMN!

You are a god! Thank you!!!!!!!

-Hawaii

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Most guys don't believe that it's possible to get a woman to give out her email and number within a few minutes of meeting her.

At my seminar this weekend there were so many guys sharing how they get numbers, dates, and even women to go home with them shortly after meeting...

It really can happen, and it often does if you know exactly what to do and how to do it.

I think you should send me half of the money you won.

***SUCCESS STORY And QUESTION***

Hey dave,

First of all would like to thank you for all these insights you've given me over the last few months with your newsletter and your book. Lately I have been using your tactics and have to say they are having great effect! I've always had quite a lot of "front" but now can imagine that I will be unbeatable in a few months! Anyway the last few times I've been out I've been concentrating on the posture, disinterested, aloof look that you mention in your book and hot girls are noticing me much more. For example the other night was in a bar and had girls hitting on ME! Usually its the other way round. Went back to one of the girls' place and after ummmmmm, how shall i put it? Well, let's just call it vigorous exercise she told me she had gone after me because of my aloofness and my cocky and funny attitude!!!! Couldn't believe it! Thanks!!

My question is: I sometimes help my parent's out in their fast food joint and when we get hot chicks in I always just chit-chat - what can I say to them in a cocky and funny way to get their numbers etc? Bare in mind that don't want to lose customers (especially these fit birds) and that I only have between 30 seconds and 2 minutes. I know your 3 minute number technique but it doesn't seem appropriate to me in this situation. Saw an email about a girl at the check-out ... this is the reverse! Im the one behind the counter. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Keep up the good work and people.....BUY THE E-BOOK! Its worth millions

MDD,
UK

>>>MY COMMENTS:

It really is pretty simple. Since you're the one who's comfortable, come up with a few funny lines to use when cute women are ordering food.

Once they're laughing, just say "Hey, do you have email? I'm too busy to talk to you, but I'll email you later..."

I'll bet you that formula will get you 10 a day.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

First thanks for taking the time to be the # 1 male to get enough balls to figure out women a little better to make it easier on the rest of us. I'm 21 yrs.old and since I got your book i've been steadily increasing my dates w/college girls at my university.

My question though is : I go to the college bars thurs-sat w/my buddies and we always talk to as many girls in the bar as possible. The problem is all the other guys are doin the same thing. I use your technique to be cocky+funny, and get a number or e-mail address, but the girls have talked to so many guys and after all they drink they don't remember which guy I was even though I made a good connection. Any tips?

Sincerely
UD

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, don't worry about it. Just get the email and number (and remember which girl was which!)

Then email the next day and say "Hey, it was fun chatting. Let's get together this week for a cup of tea and some stimulating conversation."

Don't focus on the competition and what they're doing. Focus on what you're doing.

***SUCCESS***

David, I just wanted to thank you for your emails! I am a forty year old man that was in a fourteen year relationship that ended in 11/2000. Like so many others when I was younger I had no problem meeting girls, after my relationship ended though I was like a fish out of water. I started reading your emails and put your advice to work on an online dating service. I place this really cocky but hilarious personal ad and blocked my picture to create interest as you recommended. I answered some posted personals and had several responses back. I found this very special woman and we instant messaged for over an hour. Lucky for me she has a terrific sense of humor and I found out that not only was I busting out laughing out loud, so was she. By the end of our (im) session I gave her my number and did not even ask for hers. Next thing I am typing her in a message, my phone rings, and it was her on the other end. The most fantastic part of this is I was laid off from work that day! I did tell her that up front at the beginning of our talk and that does not matter to her. You really helped change my attitude and intern my life and for that I can never give you enough thanks. Actually I ended up with two very attractive woman who were willing to over look the fact that I was now unemployed. So honesty and my confident cocky/funny approach to this situation really worked. Thanks again, my hat is off to you, you have really made a difference in my life.

R.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a great point you're making here.

Women are more interested in your personality than your income.

If your personality sucks, and you like to be a total wussy boy, then you'd BETTER make a lot of money, because it's the only thing that's going to help.

On the other hand, if you know how to be cocky and funny, and keep women on their toes, then that's all you'll need.

Good job.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I read ur book.. and wow! it's just awesome!! definitely one of the hidden treasures on the net. And after reading the book I can sort of understand why some people I know are actually so successful with women. my question is... how do I approach girls I meet during classes? I'm in University and obviously I get to see a lot of girls day after day after day. And there isn't much time to talk before or after the class. I myself used to think approaching girls during classes would've been easy.... and I dont know if I can use the routine u mentioned for bars/clubs becos this is a different environment. O wise one, ur benevolent guidance is needed!

Thanks a lot,
-T-
Canada.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Come up with some good cocky and funny things to make fun of about the classes, teachers, school, etc....

Then sit down next to one of the girls you'd like to meet and start having fun.

At the end of class, say "Hey, do you have email?"... and move into the three minute email/number technique.

Another good idea is to make friends with a popular girl in the class, and tell her that as your new friend, it's her job to fix you up with her cute single friends.

Really.

One more thing...

I've spent a LOT of time putting my eBook and other products together.

Think about this for a moment...

What if I asked you to spend a few YEARS of your life, thousands of dollars of your own money, and all kind of hard work and effort to learn something?

What if I told you that at the end of that time, I wanted to have you create a program that taught me everything you learned, but I was only going to pay you a couple of hundred bucks to do it?

What would you say?

You'd probably laugh at me.

Well, that's what I'VE done myself.

I've spent YEARS figuring out this area of my life for MYSELF. I took the time to try all kinds of crazy ideas, and test everything I learned.

Most of it didn't work.

Most of it sucked.

I wasted more time trying stupid things than anyone I know.

But the good news is that I figured it out.

I took myself from not being able to even walk over and talk to a woman to being able to date the most beautiful and intelligent women alive.

And now I've created the programs that I WISH I had when I started.

I'm serious about this.

I always ask myself "What do I wish I had when I started"... and I go from there.

Finally, I've been doing something lately that is UNHEARD OF...

In the past, I got a lot of emails that said things like "If your stuff is so great, why don't you send me a free copy, and if it works for me, I'll pay you...".

I just laughed and said "Yea, right, whatever".

But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that this was the way I PERSONALLY would like things to be when I buy things.

So guess what?

I tried it.

And it seems to be working pretty well.

Here's the deal:

If you want to download my eBook or order my Advanced Series, I'll let you do it for a FREE TRIAL.

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If you like it, keep it. If not, you don't pay.

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Check it out.

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.