The Top Pickup Artist Forum On The Internet: Fast Seduction 101

“Q&A: How To Spot And Avoid The Wrong Women” - June 30, 2004

***QUESTION***

I ordered your ebook and it's great, but i have a question that i couldn't find the answer to in there. This girl and I were getting really close. Everybody thought we were going to "hook up" soon. Then, some jerk hooked up with her. I still tried to get together with her even when they were going out. I know this guy was a jerk and i kept telling her that. Two years later, he dumps her and tells her that he cheated on her over 15 times. He also said that she "was just a rug for him to walk on". She's completely done with him now, but there is still a problem....me and her still aren't together. I have a feeling that she kinda likes me, but we don't spend much time together. We faded from each other's lives a few months ago and I don't know how to get back into her life. While I think she might have some small feelings for me, she is probly going to be cautious because I've been waiting for her for two years. She's busy working a lot and I don't know how to get close to her. It's way to early to ask her on a date. How can i get close to her if she is being cautious (besides being funny of course, because i automatically do that)?

And also, every time a girl finds out that I'm a wrestler and I and do martial arts, they think that it automatically makes me "not their type". What do I say to that?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

To answer your second question first, just STOP TALKING ABOUT being a wrestler and martial artist.

This reminds me of the construction worker who goes to the doctor and says "Doc, every time I hit my finger with the hammer it really hurts. What should I do?".

STOP IT. Duh.

OK, now let's talk about your INTERESTING question.

Well you asked for it.

Your question was "How can I get close to her if she is being cautious...?".

Based on what you've told me in your email here, I'd say that maybe you should use your wrestling and martial arts skills to BEAT HER UP a little.

Dude, what are you TALKING ABOUT?

lol...

By the way, I'm joking about beating her up. I don't usually tell people that I'm joking about things, but in this case you sound so dense that I have to.

Before I give you any more public verbal abuse, let me tell you something...

I'm doing this for your own good. You need it.

Back to the verbal abuse...

There is something that you're OBVIOUSLY not seeing here.

It's right in front of your face, but you're missing it.

In fact, there are TWO very important issues that we need to deal with.

Let's talk about the MOST OBVIOUS one first.

YOU'RE IN LOVE WITH DAMAGED GOODS... AND YOU CAN'T SEE IT.

Unfortunately, this is the GOOD news.

The BAD news is that you must have some major issues if this is the kind of woman that interests you.

As you can probably tell already, this isn't the kind of thing that I usually discuss in my newsletters... but I feel that this particular discussion is going to help a lot of guys... so here goes.

I know, I know...

You're a "good guy".

You want to rescue her from the jerk, and show her how well you can treat her.

You think that if you could just have the chance to TELL HER how you FEEL ABOUT HER that she'd see the light, and come running to your arms... and you'd be able to give her everything she's always wanted in a man.

You want to be the one that leads her to understand that she DESERVES BETTER, and she can have it if she chooses you.

I feel ya, dog.

By the way, the only reason I know this particular situation so well is that I've LIVED IT a few too many times.

It's ironic, but you're actually LUCKY that this particular girl isn't interested in you.

You have no idea how much grief she's saving you by not being interested.

OK, back to the point...

Let's talk.

Just you and me.

Like friends.

WHAT ARE YOU THINKING, MAN?

It's always amazing to me how a guy will pass up a dozen opportunities a day to walk over and meet beautiful women... but they'll spend days, weeks, months, or even YEARS trying to get the attention of a woman who isn't interested or isn't WORTH it.

It's great being human, isn't it?

So why is this?

Why do us guys do this to ourselves?

What's up?

I mean, maybe this girl reminds you of your mom.

I don't think I want to go there.

Whatever it is, you really need to wake up and smell reality.

The last thing you want is a woman who is an ABUSE MAGNET.

I don't care what you say, or how nice you think she is... the reality of this situation is that you're hung up on a girl who needs more help than you can offer her.

And again, the WORST part of this situation is that you don't realize what this whole situation is saying about YOU.

You're basically admitting that you are:

1) Attracted to the wrong kinds of women.

2) Blind.

3) Obsessive.

(By the way, so am I, so don't feel too bad.)

So, what can a guy DO about a situation like this one?

Well, here are a few ideas:

1) Forget this particular girl. She's probably not interested in you to begin with, and even if she was, she's likely to break your heart and dump you for an abusive jerk (again) anyways.

2) Take a look at yourself, and figure out what you REALLY want. If you want abuse, neglect, and pain, hire a dominatrix. Less heartache.

3) Stop being so damn NICE. There's an incredible lesson here, but you're not seeing it. Guess why this girl chose the jerk over you? Hint: It was NOT because he was chasing her around and obsessing over her. It was because she felt ATTRACTION for him. He triggered something inside of her that is MORE POWERFUL than REASON. You need to learn how to do THAT, my man.

So let's have a little talk about ATTRACTION.

I get a lot of email from guys who just don't "get it" when it comes to women and dating.

It all usually starts with one simple problem...

ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE... but men act like it is.

Women don't CHOOSE who they feel attracted to, just like men don't CHOOSE who they feel attracted to.

It just happens. BAM! All at once.

And it happens for a bunch of reasons that don't make a whole lot of "logical" sense, when you first look at them.

And, MORE IMPORTANTLY, if you don't know what makes women feel that powerful instant emotional and physical ATTRACTION for a man... and how to trigger it... then you're going to be out of luck.

If you don't "GET IT", then nothing will work very well for you.

You'll be chasing women around for the rest of your life, trying to figure out why they aren't interested in a "nice" guy like you.

On the OTHER hand, if you DO get it... and you learn how and why women feel ATTRACTION, they just about ANYTHING you do can work.

There are a few key steps to learning how to be successful with women and dating, and you need to learn them.

For you, step one is to stop chasing crazy women who like abuse.

Step two is to go order my Advanced Dating Techniques program.

One of the things you'll notice is that guys are constantly writing in to comment that this program helped them "get it", and to see things in a different way... and THAT is what led to their new success.

I'm telling you, us guys got some BAD, bad programming... and we need a new way of looking at things.

By the way, in addition to taking you behind the scenes of female psychology^», my program will also teach you literally HUNDREDS of specific techniques for everything from overcoming your fear to approaching women, meeting women online^», taking things to a "physical" level, and everything in between.

Go check out some free samples here:

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And if you haven't downloaded my eBook yet, then you REALLY need to do that now. You can download it now and be reading it in about five minutes.

Go here to download it:

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I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

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