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“Q&A: Stopping A Woman On The Street” - September 30, 2004
>>>SUCCESS STORY:
Hello, I just bought your book today and I have to admit it was the best choice ever. Before I bought your book I was the shy "nice" guy who would always try to cling on girls and hardly ever talk to any and was always wondering why I couldn't get any phone #'s or dates. I have been dateless for 19 years and I just finished reading your book tonight.
Well I went out and tried some of the techniques and I have to admit it worked like a charm. I saw this girl (looked like a model) I went up to her and said hi, (never done before) and she was like hi and kept walking. Then I threw in this remark "what did my good looks really scare you that badly? (I am an average looking guy and I knew this)" This stopped her in her tracks and she actually came back and was like "What did you say "I was like "Did my good looks really scare you away" and she said "I guess that was it, do you want to grab a table and talk a bit?"
Then we talked for around 20 minutes then I looked at my watch and said look at the time I have to get going. She said "already but we just started". Then I said well how about you give me your e-mail address and I can contact you when I have some time. She told me she didn't have an e-mail address so I asked for her phone number and told her I would only call her about 3 times every day. She laughed and gave it to me and I said will I be able to get a hold of you on this number? She said yes and even showed me her cell phone number. It matched so I was like I will call you sometime towards the end of the week and maybe we can meet up and develop our "Friendship" a little more. I walked away leaving her speechless.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
OK, first of all, you get a GOLD STAR for being a MAN OF ACTION.
With this little story, you've shown me that you UNDERSTAND what you're learning... and you possess an important quality: Willingness to TRY THINGS.
I thought that it would be interesting to talk about the psychology of approaching and meeting women that you don't know.
Your email was a great introduction to this topic, as it included several subtle twists and turns that make for interesting observation and analysis.
Listen to me talking about "observation and analysis"... I sound like some kind of freakin' smart guy.
Whatever.
OBSERVATION AND ANALYSIS #1:
First you walked over and just said "Hi"...then, when she kept walking, you said something that was both Cocky & Funny, and PRICELESS.
You said:
"What did my good looks really scare you that badly?"
Now, the fact that you're an average-looking REALLY makes something like this work.
With one comment you actually communicated more than most guys communicate in HOURS.
You effectively said "I'm not intimidated by you, and, in fact, I'm so comfortable around beautiful women that I can make funny comments like this one...".
Beautiful women walk around in the world surrounded by BORING, needy, approval-seeking guys. These guys are NOT appealing to women.
When someone shows up and actually demonstrates some HUMOR and some PERSONALITY and some STRENGTH, it really stands out.
OBSERVATION AND ANALYSIS #2:
After chatting with her for a little while, you said "I have to get going".
What would most guys do in a situation like this one?
Of course... they'd cling to this girl like peanut butter sticks to the roof of a dog's mouth.
And what would she do?
Right... she'd RUN.
By breaking off the interaction yourself when it was on an UP NOTE, you made yourself FAR more attractive to her.
OBSERVATION AND ANALYSIS #3:
After you got her number, you said "I'll call you at the end of the week and maybe we can meet up to develop our friendship a little more".
Beautiful.
What would most guys have done?
Right... they would have said "Hey, maybe I can take you out on a date this week... how does that sound?".
In other words, they would have basically communicated that they were needy Wussbags instead of communicating that they understood the situation and what they were dealing with.
And, of course, they probably wouldn't have had a chance of seeing that woman ever again (except in their one-handed fantasies).
I LOVE IT WHEN GUYS TAKE ACTION!
Love it!
I'm proud of you, man.
Someone come over here and give me a hug before I start crying.
Again, you get a gold star.
One more thought...
I think that most guys would read a story like this one and say "That sounds like B.S... that would never work".
Well I'll tell you something... I've seen things like this happen so many times that I can't even count them anymore.
I have one friend who I personally saw get 25 different women's phone numbers over the course of one weekend.
The amazing part is that he and I were in an educational seminar the entire weekend...
In other words, we were busy MOST of the time... and he got those 25 phone numbers during breaks and evenings.
And I'd say that it took him an AVERAGE of about 5 or 7 minutes to get each one.
It blew my mind.
Is this guy rich? Does he look like Brad Pitt?
Nope.
You wouldn't even notice him if he walked in front of you.
Would you like to hear him talk about how he stops women on the street and gets their phone numbers?
Good, because there's an easy way for you to do it...
It JUST SO HAPPENS that this particular guy is one of SEVERAL guests that are featured on my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.
He actually shares and DEMONSTRATES how he stops women, starts conversations, and gets numbers... all in step-by-step detail.
Of course, this is one small part of my program.
And he's only one of several different amazing "specialists" that are featured on it.
You'll literally learn everything from how to overcome your fear and shyness to how to give a woman a "million dollar" date experience for under TEN BUCKS... and HUNDREDS of other strategies and techniques.
I can't say enough good stuff about it... and if you read some of the feedback that I've gotten on my website, you'll see that others agree.
Go check it out, listen and watch some great free samples, and read the feedback here:
And you'll notice that the guy who wrote the letter featured in this newsletter started off with "I just bought your book today...".
That's a hint.
If you haven't downloaded your copy, then you need to do that IMMEDIATELY.
You can download it right now, and be reading it within a few minutes. It's here:
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
P.S. If you'd like to send me a Success Story, Question, or Comment, follow these guidelines:
1) Keep it short and to the point. Two paragraphs max.
2) Tell me what's working for you before you ask your question. I appreciate all of the "Your stuff is great" and "I don't need to tell you how well your stuff works" comments, but the fact is that I DO need to hear all of the specifics... because this helps other guys to see what's working in different situations.
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