mASF post by "Design"
posted on: mASF forum: General Discussion newsgroup, May 5, 2005I saw TD speak in D.C. a couple weeks ago and he touched on something I had
noticed and have been wanting to comment on.
We each have some number of tools in our PU toolbox: opinion openers, negs,
C&F, IVDs, mini-cold reads, games, humorous stories, future adventures
projection, patterns, etc., etc. A lot of the fuck ups we read here (or have
experienced ourselves) involve people mis-using these tools.
Our first instinct might be to label these failures of calibration. In some
cases, that's true. More commonly, these are errors of KNOWLEDGE.
So here's a question: consider the tools in your toolbox. Do you know what
they are intended to accomplish? Do you understand WHY they are supposed to
work? I don't mean do you have a "kinda sorta" feeling on the issue. I mean
you can you verbalize it in precise terms?
Let's take a basic basic example. Openers. How many people here really
understand the distinction between direct and indirect openers? How many
people really understand the relationship between direct and indirect openers
and opinion openers? (Here's a tip: if you think opinion openers are
necessarily indirect, you're wrong.) How many people really understand the
reasoning behind going in indirect?
If you can't (correctly) answer these questions, you won't be able to use the
tools.
Or how about another basic concept: Cocky & Funny. What is C&F? How is it
distinct from playful teasing? What is its relationship to the three
classifications of rapport? Why is the humor element so important? What is it
meant to accomplish?
If you can't (correctly) answer these questions, you won't be able to use the
tools.
I anticipate a backlash from the minimalists among us. Look, if you want to
just be alpha and sex girls, fine by me. But if you use outer game tools and
tactics and you're finding that you're not getting the results you want, take
some time to think about whether you really understand the tools you're using.
Design
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Life By Design
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