mASF post by "esk6969"
posted on: alt.seduction.relationships, July 7, 2005Hi Dave. Welcome!
Listen Dave, since this is your first post, and you went about introducing
yourself in a nice way, I'm not going to asshole you. BUT....
I really honestly fail to see how this is anything other than a standard
oneitisproblem, with a standard GFTOW solution.
But, rather than just kneejerk that statement and blow you off, let's try a
different tack:
I will assume, based on the politness of your intro, that you have read the faq
and manual ("guide", whatever). So then, in order to help us help you
better....
Can you please tell me(us) in what way this situ is NOT a standard case of
oneitisFYI, the fact that she is unhappy in her current relationship with her new BF
is not relevant. On ASF, we are "state independent". We are unconcerned with
anyone else's state but our own, because we realize that the quality of ALL of
our interpersonal reactions are going to derive from this. Further, we can,
and very much will, change other people's states to match our desire (i.e, if
your ex-gf is "sad", you can make her "happy").
But, changing other people's behavior, or more specifically, not caring what
they want, but rather, what they respond to, is the name of the game here. I
only mention all this, because I want to make it clear that whether HBexgf is
happy with her new BF, or sad, or hates him, or has decided to go lesbo, is not
relevant to the core issue at work here, which is oneitis(and therefore, leads
us right back to your state, and how it is the only one you should be concerned
with).
"Get your validation from your life, not your women." - L&C
"Girls network" is like the Mafia with the difference that they use the tongue
instead of Beretta. - Franco
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