mASF post by "happyhourhero"
posted on: mASF forum: Field Reports Discussion, July 7, 2005Whats up everyone!
So I've taken a nice month or so break from the boards to just work on stuff.
Been focusing on having more "laid back" conversations while sprinkling
attraction material here and there rather than just bombing the HB's with it.
And its going good. But here is a constant experience that keeps coming up
again and again and I can't figure it out. An example from last night:
I open a HB 8 -- smoking body, OK face - with something I've been using a
lot lately
"Hey Guys, have you ever been hit on by a gay person?" I'll either open with
that or use an opinion opener then go right into that. I''ve found using the
term *person* almost always causes them to wonder if *I* am the gay person
that is going to hit on them
HB: blah blah yes/no whatever BUT then they always ask "are you gay??" I
don't know it seems to be a kind of a tension - they wonder if I am gay, then
a release - them finding out I'm not gay.
Anyway, I talk on that thread for 1 or 2 minutes telling her my story about
this gay freakshow looking guy who hit on me in an extremely direct way, get
her laughing. Then
Me: "Jeez you have like 6 peircings in your ear, I shouldn't be around you, you
are too badass. You would get me in too much trouble. I need a good girl"
HB: "Nooo! I'm not a badass, I'm in graduate school for speech pathology,
I'm going to help a lot of people"
She asks my name, I reply with the standard "guess" go with that for a couple
tries then give her my name and she gives me hers
She then asks me if I work or go to school or what I do. I respond with "Jeez,
does every girl have a standard list of boring questions to ask guys?!"
Bust her a little then give her a straight answer
She's into me, laughing, DDB whatever
So I figure thats enough busting and attraction so I go into rapport and
qualifying. "So, what made you decide to go into speech pathology and help
people" "Thats so awesome that you want to help people, I myself have
absolutely no idea what i want to do, but I do know whatever it is I want to
help people that are less fortunate than me. "
Then its usually at this point that she made an excuse to go find her friend.
And I find this happening too often where they make up some excuse to leave
even though they seem SUPER into me. I can't figure it out. Do I need to
move them around with me to somewhere else in the club before I go for
rapport. Do I need to qualify them more before rapport??
I'd appreciate your input
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