mASF post by "ime"
posted on: alt.seduction.relationships, July 7, 2005In article <[email protected]>, <Flow2> wrote:
> she whispered in my ear that she wanted to talk to me about this, and that
> if i felt uncomfortable about this i could tell her.
If you object to her moving in with him, then not only do you elevate her
value, and his value (you're social proofing him by your jealousy), you make
her housing problem your problem.
What would be ideal would be if you can actually see your jealousy for what
it is: a symptom of insecurity. Get rid of the insecurity, and the
jealously will magically be gone as well.
Where does the insecurity come from? Because in your mind she's the prize.
You fear that if she turned away from you, you would not be able to replace
her. That's called one-itis-and the standard solution is Go Fuck Ten Other
Women.
If you can't go cold-turkey from your one-itis-but want to give up that
addiction slowly and painfully, you can fake not being jealous. That will
appear alpha, but it won't be real, and it will hurt your inner game». Is
that the best you can do? Will that help you enjoy freeing yourself from
your insecurity and jealousy?
An alternative is to be jealous, and let her know. That makes you AFC, and
you'll lose her anyway (probably not to OldBoyfriend, she's already done
with him.) You can try to become her provider, help her with her housing,
buy her food, do her laundry... I doubt you really want that.
> I don't want her living her, as you can pretty much understand.
Not really. You don't keep her by making it hard to access competition,
that just makes the competition seem more attractive. You keep her by being
the best *she* can hope for, the guy that she has one-itis-for.
> I don't mind them being friends, i just feel weird laying her
> in his house and seeing her EXBF everytime i visit her.
What do you care about him? You're not trying to seduce him, nor get a job
from him. Unless he's a psycho that might himself be jealous to the extent
he might harm you, he's just furniture as far as you're concerned. Do you
care what the bed thinks?
> How do i keep her away there without any arguments that spell jealousy?
What did she not like about living there before, that caused her to move
out? If you can combine faking not-jealous with subtly reminding her of
everything she *didn't* like about living there, you'll create internal
conflict for her; she may then be ready to accept another solution to her
housing problem, if she or you can come up with one. But you're setting
yourself up as Provider Daddy if you solve her housing problem for her.
Others on this board may have more hopeful advice for you, but I see your
jealousy as a symptom of weakness in your inner game» that you'll need to
change to get and keep the women you choose, both now and in the future.
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